Should I Ask My Sister to Repay the Rent Loan after Splurging on Designer Bags?
WIBTA for asking my sister to repay a loan after she spent on designer bags? Opinions are divided on whether to confront her about this financial betrayal.
It started with a sweet sister moment, and ended with a designer bag post that felt like a slap in the face. One minute Sarah is in tears over rent, the next she’s showing off an $800 purchase like the loan never happened.
OP says Sarah (25F) came to her (29F) last month, begging for help because car repairs wiped out her money. Then OP sees Sarah posting about a new designer bag, and suddenly the “unexpected emergency” story doesn’t add up, especially since OP’s own budget is getting tight now.
Now OP is wondering if she’s the villain for asking the money back.
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I (29F) have a close relationship with my younger sister, Sarah (25F). Last month, Sarah came to me in tears, saying she couldn't afford her rent due to unexpected car repairs.
Feeling sympathetic, I lent her $1000, emphasizing it was for rent only. A week later, I saw her posting on social media about her latest designer bag purchase worth $800.
I felt betrayed and confronted her, but she shrugged it off, saying she deserved a treat. Now, money is tight for me too.
WIBTA for asking her to repay the loan?
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This is like the question over whether to ask a friend to repay a $500 loan, even when friendship gets messy.
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OP didn’t just give Sarah money, she specifically told her it was for rent only, which makes the designer bag reveal sting even more.
The week after the loan, Sarah shrugged off the confrontation with a simple “I deserved a treat,” right while OP is feeling the pinch.
Every new social media post about the $800 bag turns OP’s sympathy into suspicion, because rent was the stated emergency.
With OP now needing that $1000 too, the real question becomes whether Sarah’s “treat” was worth ignoring the agreement.</p>
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OP might not be asking for repayment out of spite, but she’s definitely not wrong for wanting her money back.
Before you confront Sarah about designer bags, see if you should ask her to repay a failed business loan.
Should I Ask My Sister to Repay the Money Borrowed for Her Failed Business?
