Should I Cancel a Trip to Cover an Unexpected Vet Bill for Our Cat?

The weekend trip was supposed to be simple, flights booked, anniversary dinner handled, and everyone showing up with that “we’re excited to be here” energy. Then the cat got sick, and suddenly OP is staring at an $800 vet bill like it dropped out of the ceiling.

OP and his wife had planned to visit her parents at the end of the month, they even told the family they’d be coming. But now OP is considering canceling the flights to avoid dipping into savings that are already earmarked for a down payment on a house, and the wife is between jobs while OP is the primary breadwinner.

It turns a cute family visit into a real money stress test, and the question is whether canceling makes him the a*****e.

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The wife and I were planning a short weekend trip to visit her parents at the end of this month for their anniversary. That would have meant flight tickets + a nice dinner on us.

They were made aware that we'll be visiting. Our cat got sick all of a sudden a few days ago, and we were hit with a significant vet bill (~$800), which we were obviously not expecting.

I was going to book the flights at around the same time but decided not to as I'm considering canceling our trip. Our financial situation is not terrible and we can afford to spend the money from our savings but I don't think it's a necessary expense.

I'd prefer not to dip into our savings which we'll eventually be putting towards a down payment for a house. Currently I'm the primary breadwinner and she works part time as she's between jobs.

This is enough for our normal monthly expenses plus some change but until she finds a full time position we're not putting anything towards our savings. Would I be the a*****e for wanting to cancel this trip

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The whole situation flips the moment OP’s cat gets sick “all of a sudden,” and that $800 bill lands right before the anniversary trip.</p>

OP’s wife is part time and currently between jobs, so the savings plan for the down payment suddenly feels a lot more urgent than a weekend flight.</p>

Since her parents were already told they’d be visiting, canceling now means dealing with the awkward fallout, not just the financial hit.</p>

With the trip on the line and the house savings still untouched, OP has to decide whether he can afford the flights or if he’s stuck choosing between family and stability.</p>

What are your thoughts on this situation? Share your perspective in the comments below.

Canceling might save the house fund, but it could also blow up the anniversary visit with her parents.

Before you decide, read about the AITA mom confronting her sister-in-law over disciplining her child without permission.