Should I Confess My Feelings for My Best Friends Sibling?

A 28-year-old man is stuck in the kind of romantic mess that can ruin friendships for years, and he knows it. He and his best friend, Alex, hang out constantly, movies, meals, the whole “we’re basically family” routine. But tucked under all that normalcy is one big secret, he’s been harboring feelings for Alex’s younger sister, Sarah (26F), for a long time.

The complication is that Sarah and him genuinely click, same interests, same values, and they’ve always gotten along too well for comfort. He’s kept his feelings locked down out of respect for Alex and the fragile balance of their trio, but lately it’s getting harder. After a movie night where they bonded over a shared favorite film, the tension between them spiked, and now he’s worried his silence is starting to mess up how everyone acts around each other.

Now he’s wondering if confessing is the move, or if it’s the fastest way to blow up the friend group.

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So I'm (28M) in a bit of a dilemma. My best friend, let's call him Alex, has a younger sibling, Sarah (26F), who I've secretly had feelings for quite some time.

Sarah and I have always gotten along really well, and we share a lot of common interests and values. I've never acted on my feelings out of respect for Alex and the potential impact it could have on our friendship dynamics.

However, lately, I've been struggling to keep my feelings hidden, and it's starting to affect how I interact with both Alex and Sarah. For background, we all h**g out together frequently, going to movies, grabbing meals, and just enjoying each other's company in general.

Recently, during a movie night, Sarah and I had a moment where we connected over a shared favorite movie, and I felt this strong urge to tell her how I feel. It's been eating at me, and I can sense some subtle tension whenever the three of us are together.

I'm torn between wanting to be honest about my feelings and potentially risking our friendship dynamic. I know that revealing my crush could lead to awkwardness, hurt feelings, or even changes in how we all interact.

On the other hand, keeping it to myself is becoming increasingly challenging, and I worry that it might start to affect my friendship with both Alex and Sarah. So, Reddit, WIBTA if I confessed my feelings to Sarah and risked complicating the dynamic between us?

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It’s also like the OP debating whether to tell her best friend Sarah’s feelings, even while the best friend is in a relationship.

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That movie night connection, the one about their shared favorite film, is what finally made his secret stop feeling “manageable.”

Since Sarah and OP always get along so smoothly, even normal hangs like grabbing meals together start to feel loaded.

The real fear is how Alex reacts if the truth comes out, especially when OP has been acting different around both of them lately.

By the time the trio is back together again, he’s caught between wanting honesty and protecting the friendship dynamic he’s been guarding.</p>

What are your thoughts on this situation? Share your perspective in the comments below.

He doesn’t just risk rejection, he risks turning Alex and Sarah’s movie nights into awkward silence forever.

Still torn like the OP with a crush on their mutual friend, read what they decided in this friendship-risking confession dilemma.