Should I Go on a Double Date with My Friends Crush? AITA?

A 28-year-old woman is stuck in the kind of dating mess that sounds cute on paper and awkward in real life. Her best friend has been quietly crushing on a guy for months, and now that guy’s friend is stepping into the spotlight, asking her out on a double date.

Here’s the setup: her friend, 27F, has her sights on Alex, 30M, who is apparently also really into her. Meanwhile, Alex’s single friend, Mike, 32M, asked OP to go on a double date with him, with the specific plan that everyone hangs out together. OP likes Mike, wants to have a good time, and also worries that saying no would feel like walking away from something real, even though her friend clearly has feelings.

One double date, two crushes, and a friendship that could go sideways fast.

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So I'm (28F) and my best friend (27F) has been crushing on this guy, let's call him Alex (30M), for months.

Now, Alex has a friend, let's call him Mike (32M), who's been single for a while and my friend thinks Mike is cute. Here's where it gets complicated.

Mike asked me out on a double date, knowing my friend likes him. He also mentioned that Alex is really into my friend and it would be nice for all of us to go out together.

I'm torn because on one hand, I want to support my friend and not get in the way of her potential relationship with Alex. But on the other hand, I genuinely like Mike and I think we could have a good time together.

For background, my friend knows that Mike asked me out but she hasn't said anything about not wanting me to go. I feel like if I decline the double date, I might be missing out on a chance with Mike.

So, am I the a*****e for considering going on this double date despite my friend's feelings?

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This matches the AITA where someone refuses to introduce their friend to their crush to avoid a love triangle.

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Mike already asked OP out while knowing Alex is into OP’s best friend, so the “it’s for everyone” pitch lands a little too conveniently.

OP’s best friend hasn’t said she doesn’t want OP there, which makes the whole situation feel like a silent test she didn’t ask for.

The fact that Alex is reportedly into OP’s friend adds extra pressure, because OP’s date choice might affect the whole Alex-and-friend storyline.

Now OP has to decide if going with Mike is supporting her friend, or accidentally stepping on the exact feelings she’s trying to protect.

We'd love to hear your take on this situation. Share your thoughts below.

OP isn’t wrong for wanting Mike, but the double date could turn her friendship into the main plot twist.

Wondering if you can pursue romance after learning your friend’s feelings, too, check out the AITA about a conflicted friend asking out a crush despite already liking someone else.