Should I Lend Money to My Cousin After Risky Investments?

It started with a simple loan request, and it turned into a family stress test fast. A 28-year-old woman, who has always been careful with her money, is being asked to save her cousin Alex, 29, after he claims his inheritance got wiped out by a “risky business venture.”

Here’s what makes it complicated: Alex didn’t just lose money, he lost it in a gamble he chose, and he’s now pushing hard for a “substantial” amount from his responsible cousin. OP sympathizes, they even talked through budgets and other options, but Alex keeps insisting that the only way forward is her writing the check.

Now the real question is whether she’s being unfair, or whether Alex is still trying to fund the next bad decision with someone else’s savings.

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I (28F) have always been financially responsible, saving diligently for emergencies and the future. My cousin Alex (29M) on the other hand, inherited a significant amount of money from our grandparents.

For background, our grandparents worked hard to build their wealth, and they hoped we would use the inheritance wisely. Recently, Alex reached out to me for a loan.

He explained that he had invested his inheritance in a risky business venture that failed, leaving him in a tough spot financially. He asked if I could lend him a substantial amount to help him get back on his feet.

I was taken aback by his request. While I empathize with his situation, I couldn't shake off the feeling that his financial troubles stemmed from poor decision-making.

I worked hard to build my own savings and investments, and I wasn't comfortable risking my financial stability to bail him out of a situation that could have been avoided. We had a heartfelt conversation where I expressed my concerns and offered to help him create a budget and explore other solutions.

I even suggested he seek financial advice to manage his remaining funds better. However, Alex seemed adamant that a loan from me was the only viable solution.

Despite his persistence, I ultimately decided to stand my ground and decline his loan request. I value our relationship, but I couldn't justify jeopardizing my own financial security due to his past choices.

So, Reddit, AITA for refusing to lend money to my cousin after he blew his inheritance on risky investments? I'd appreciate your perspectives on this.

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This is similar to the AITA case where someone refused to fund their brothers business loan, despite family pressure.

Family Loyalty vs. Financial Responsibility: AITA for Denying My Brothers Business Loan?

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OP’s careful emergency savings plan is suddenly on the table because Alex blew his inheritance on a failed venture.

After the heartfelt talk where OP offered budgeting help and other solutions, Alex still refused to hear anything except a loan.

OP’s biggest fear is that lending money would mean betting her own stability on the same choices that already burned Alex.

The family dinner energy is basically recreated here, because OP is standing her ground while Alex keeps pushing for “only viable solution” money.

What's your opinion on this situation? Join the conversation!.

If Alex wants another shot at his plan, he should fund it like an adult, not with OP’s inheritance.

For another family boundary fight, see what happened after a brother-in-law failed investments and begged again in AITA.

Family Feud: Refusing to Lend Money to Irresponsible Brother-in-Law - AITA?