Should I Pay for EZPass for Partners Toll Fees? AITA?

AITA for not contributing to toll costs despite my partner driving me to see my family?

Damjan

Published in Interesting
24 Dec 2025

Should I Pay for EZPass for Partners Toll Fees? AITA?

In relationships, financial responsibilities can often lead to misunderstandings and tension, especially when it comes to shared activities like travel. In this Reddit thread, a 27-year-old woman finds herself at the center of a heated debate with her partner over the costs associated with visiting family.

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While her partner frequently expresses his frustration with the tolls and expenses incurred on these trips, she feels little financial obligation, arguing that she rarely drives the car. The situation escalates when her partner's complaints about tolls become more pronounced, particularly during the holidays when they plan to visit both families.

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The original poster's stance is that she shouldn't have to pay, since she doesn't drive often and isn't on the car's insurance policy. However, this has led to numerous comments from the Reddit community suggesting that she may be overlooking the financial strain her partner is bearing.

As the discussion unfolds, it raises important questions about fairness, shared responsibilities, and the expectations we place on our partners. Is it reasonable for one person to shoulder the entire financial burden of travel, or should both partners contribute equally, regardless of who is driving?

Join the conversation and share your thoughts on this complex issue of partnership and financial equity.

Original Post

My partner (30m) and I (27f) have had differences when it comes to traveling, seeing family etc. My partner is complaining about how much it costs to go from one area of the city we live in to another because of tolls.

I told him I agree it must be a headache but ofc I never offer help to pay (I’m not on any ppw for the car, I only drove the car once for two blocks in the 2-3 years we have been together lol) This is where it’s coming to a head. Whenever we used to go visit my grandma he tells me how expensive it is without fail every.

single. time.

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Something along the lines of “you see this is why I don’t want to go as often bc you’re not the one driving, paying for it. You don’t feel it the way I do.” We probably would see her once every two months but have since slowed down because of differences between my grandma and myself.

Now he is talking about how he doesn’t want to pay for toll two times in a row for the holidays visiting family (one day for his, one for mine) because it would be expensive for him. He was upset we can’t see both families at the same time but I had informed him of the reason why (custody agreement) and he made a face.

I told him “Eff it. I’ll pay for it whatever” He hasn’t hinted at me paying for it before but whenever it’s something for me to visit family, there’s always a complaint.

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So.. AITA for not caring to pay?

Not sure if I’m wording the question correctly