Should I Pay for EZPass for Partners Toll Fees? AITA?

AITA for not contributing to toll costs despite my partner driving me to see my family?

Damjan

Published in Interesting
24 Dec 2025

Should I Pay for EZPass for Partners Toll Fees? AITA?

OP didn’t even plan for this to turn into a full-on relationship argument, but one thing kept coming up every time they tried to visit family: tolls. Her partner acts like paying for EZPass is some kind of personal attack, and the more she points out she never even drives the car, the louder the complaints get.

Here’s the mess, her partner (30m) constantly brings up how expensive it is to travel across the city to see OP’s grandma, especially since OP is not the one paying for tolls on a regular basis. She says she barely drives, she’s not on the car’s EZPass or any payment plan, and she’s tired of hearing the same guilt trip every single trip.

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Now it’s the holidays, and he’s saying he doesn’t want to pay tolls twice in a row for his family and then hers, even though custody rules make it impossible to do both at once.

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My partner (30m) and I (27f) have had differences when it comes to traveling, seeing family etc. My partner is complaining about how much it costs to go from one area of the city we live in to another because of tolls.

I told him I agree it must be a headache but ofc I never offer help to pay (I’m not on any ppw for the car, I only drove the car once for two blocks in the 2-3 years we have been together lol) This is where it’s coming to a head. Whenever we used to go visit my grandma he tells me how expensive it is without fail every.

single. time.

Something along the lines of “you see this is why I don’t want to go as often bc you’re not the one driving, paying for it. You don’t feel it the way I do.” We probably would see her once every two months but have since slowed down because of differences between my grandma and myself.

Now he is talking about how he doesn’t want to pay for toll two times in a row for the holidays visiting family (one day for his, one for mine) because it would be expensive for him. He was upset we can’t see both families at the same time but I had informed him of the reason why (custody agreement) and he made a face.

I told him “Eff it. I’ll pay for it whatever” He hasn’t hinted at me paying for it before but whenever it’s something for me to visit family, there’s always a complaint.