Should I Skip Fathers Day to Celebrate Friends Birthday?

June is supposed to be fun, not stressful, but this one calendar clash has OP spiraling hard. Her friend planned a trip for her 21st birthday, June 19th to 22nd, and OP is really excited to go. Then she checks the dates again and realizes it overlaps with Father’s Day.

OP is young, so she tells herself there will be other chances to celebrate Father’s Day later. Still, the guilt hits anyway, because this is a real holiday for a real dad, not just another date on the calendar. The tricky part is that she’s not choosing between two parties she’s equally close to, she’s choosing between showing up for her friend’s milestone trip and honoring Father’s Day without making it sound like she forgot.

All because she wants to be a good friend, she’s stuck wondering if she’s about to get judged for doing the right thing for the wrong weekend.

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My friend recently invited me to go on a trip in June to celebrate her 21st birthday from the 19th-22nd. I looked at the calendar and saw that it would mean missing Father’s Day this year.

I know I’m young and there will be other opportunities to celebrate this but I feel guilty for missing it. I’m not sure what to do and I might be overthinking it.

Any advice is appreciated.

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OP’s friend already locked in the 21st birthday trip dates, June 19th to 22nd, so Father’s Day is the first thing to collide with the plan.

After OP notices the overlap, the guilt starts talking louder than the fact that she could celebrate Father’s Day later.

The real tension is that OP feels like she’s letting someone down, even though she’s trying to show up for a once-in-a-lifetime birthday.

By the time OP’s weighing the trip against Father’s Day, she’s basically stuck between “I’ll make it up” and “what if I’m the bad guy?”

What would you do in this situation? Share your opinion in the comments.

OP isn’t just picking a weekend, she’s deciding who she thinks she has to disappoint.

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