Man Shares How DNA Test Shattered His Identity And Now Inheritance Is Tearing Siblings Apart
"It was weird to spend time with people I had no blood relation to"
Family isn’t always defined by DNA. Sometimes it’s defined by paperwork, sometimes by love, and sometimes by the choices people make when the truth becomes inconvenient.
When secrets come out, especially secrets about paternity, they don’t just change biology — they rewrite identity. And once that identity shifts, everyone seems to have a different opinion about what loyalty is supposed to look like.
Is it loyalty to blood? To the man who raised you? To the truth? Or to the version of the family that’s easiest to live with?
The original poster of today’s story was 12 when his dad died, and it shattered him. He was the man who raised him, the man he loved, and the person he considered his father. A year later, OP's mom married the man she’d been having an affair with, who the OP later learned is his biological father.
When the OP was asked to let this man adopt him, he refused. His siblings agreed eagerly, and he couldn’t understand how everyone seemed so ready to replace his dad.
Years later, a DNA test confirmed the truth. It didn’t change how the OP felt — it only made the loss feel fresh again.
OP moved out, kept his distance, and stayed close to his dad’s side of the family. Later on, OP's great aunt passed away and left money for the O,P but his siblings received nothing.
Find out what happens next after OP's siblings found out about it.
The OP writes...
RedditThe OP was crushed at the idea of everyone seemingly so eager to replace the man he knew and love
RedditThe OP guesses he got fed up one day and that's why he decided to tell him and his siblings the truth
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His siblings say it was weird to spend time with people he had no blood relation to
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OP's younger siblings heard about the money and thinks he should split with them equally
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OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:
I might be TA because my siblings could use the money but I'm too angry with them to share.We've gathered some of the most upvoted comments from other Redditors for you to read through below
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The OP has nothing to apologize for
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They not only denounced them but ridiculed the OP
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They ignored until they stood to gain from it
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OP's siblings are acting like spoilt AHs
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The OP doesn't have much of a relationship with them
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The relationship is what the inheritance is based on
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Good on the OP for resisting his influence
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At the end of the day, this feels less about money and more about the consequences of choices. OP's siblings chose adoption; they chose to redefine who counted as family but the OP chose to hold onto the man who raised him, regardless of DNA.
Now an inheritance has drawn a line that mirrors those decisions. If he shares it, it feels like he's erasing the very boundary they insisted on for years. If he doesn’t share, he's the selfish brother.
Well, Redditors have broken it down and the OP was declared not the AH.
