Sibling suspected of stealing from me, WIBTA for asking them to move out?

A 28-year-old man thought he was just misplacing cash, until his sibling’s “struggling financially” situation turned into something darker. The missing money wasn’t random, it was targeted, and it kept happening right under his roof.

Now he’s got a hidden camera footage moment, and the person he shares a home with, his 26-year-old sibling who moved in a few months ago, is caught taking money from his wallet. He feels betrayed and violated, but the complication is real: he knows they’re in a tough spot and kicking them out could blow up the whole relationship.

Here’s the part that makes it messy, he wants to confront them and ask them to move out, but he’s worried he’ll be the bad guy for drawing a hard line.

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So, I'm (28M) and I've been suspecting that money has been going missing from my wallet at home. I live with my sibling (26NB) who has been struggling financially and moved in with me a few months ago.

Recently, I've noticed that cash keeps disappearing, but I didn't want to jump to conclusions. For background, my sibling has had past issues with finances, but I never expected them to steal from me.

The other day, I set up a hidden camera in my room and caught them taking money from my wallet. I was shocked and hurt.

I haven't confronted them yet, but I'm torn. I understand they've been going through a tough time, but stealing from family crosses a line.

I feel betrayed and violated. I want to ask them to move out, but I know it'll strain our relationship.

So, AITA if I confront them about the theft and ask them to leave, or should I give them another chance despite feeling deeply hurt?

Family dynamics can be incredibly complex, particularly when financial stressors are involved. Trust is the cornerstone of familial relationships. When that trust is broken, especially through actions like theft, it can create deep rifts that are hard to mend.

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The pattern of cash disappearing from OP’s wallet starts to feel less like bad luck and more like his sibling’s routine.

Once the hidden camera catches the theft in his own room, the “we’re both stressed” excuse stops working.

It’s a messy parallel to the AITA about whether to tell a sister about her boyfriend’s troubled past.

When faced with betrayal from a loved one, it's easy to approach the situation with anger and resentment.

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OP is stuck between confronting a sibling he still has to live with and risking the damage that comes with asking them to move out.

With the theft now proven on camera, the real question becomes whether another chance helps, or just keeps the wound open.

What would you do in this situation? Share your opinion in the comments.

Navigating family relationships, especially when trust is broken, requires careful consideration and empathy.

This scenario underscores the profound emotional turmoil that emerges when trust fractures within familial relationships.

He’s not just trying to protect his money, he’s trying to figure out if living with a thief is even possible.

Want another inheritance fight? Read the AITA about refusing to split dad’s inheritance with siblings who ignored him.