30 People Share Things They Silently Judge Others For
“Lack of self-awareness”
There are many ways that people are raised, and differences are normal. You meet others, and they do certain things that you don’t exactly understand, and thoughts pop into your head; the next thing you know, you’re silently judging them.
You might see strangers, and even loved ones, do things that hit hard with your pet peeves. They might even introduce you to pet peeves you didn’t know you had.
Like leaving things scattered when you prefer cleanliness or the way people speak differently to their pets. It’s because you can’t imagine yourself doing those kinds of things.
People are told to choose kindness above all else, and although judging sounds bad, it sometimes inevitably enters your thoughts, like unspoken first impressions.
Not all silent judgments are mean, though. In a r/askreddit post, a Redditor asked people what they silently judged others for, and some responses were wholesome. For example, one person mentioned that they judge overweight individuals when they see them running, but that’s because they’re rooting for them.
We are discouraged from a young age from judging others, mostly because we were never provided the right context for it. It is natural for humans to do so, but it doesn’t mean that all judgment is hurtful.
nosovietspyhere1. Nobody wants to buy your second-hand trash
Stellathewizard2. Not everyone needs to find out what happens in the next episode of the show you’re watching
Chipman94Social Judgments and Self-Perception
Social judgment is a fundamental aspect of human interaction, often reflecting deeper psychological patterns. Dr. David Thompson, a social psychologist at UC Berkeley, explains that our judgments of others can reveal our insecurities and values.
When individuals express what they judge others for, it often stems from their own experiences and beliefs, creating a complex interplay between self-perception and social interaction.
3. Life can slow you down, or maybe people like these
PretzelsThirst4. Let them get through the hurdles and achieve their goals
Original-Insect99485. What’s bad is littering; what’s worse is littering while doing something equally unacceptable
Bubblegum-Blues, So3DimensionalResearch published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology indicates that people who engage in judgmental behavior may do so as a defense mechanism to bolster their self-esteem. By criticizing others, individuals can temporarily elevate their own self-worth, albeit at the cost of damaging social relationships.
This highlights the importance of self-awareness and understanding the motivations behind our judgments to foster healthier interactions.
6. Somebody needs to scrape off that bumper sticker
DA-ZACHYZACHY,starkpaella7. Their brother not only silently judged them; they silently saved the dog as well
aquaqueenz, Apprehensive-Bus6758. There are countless ways people mistreat customer service, as if it hurts them to be nice
Eliboy96, ZesteeTVCultivating Empathy and Understanding
To counteract judgmental tendencies, individuals can practice empathy and perspective-taking. Experts recommend engaging in reflective practices that encourage individuals to consider the experiences and challenges others face.
For example, asking oneself, 'What might have led them to make this choice?' can foster a more compassionate outlook, reducing the impulse to judge.
9. Drunkenly touching people can easily cross a bad line
f11tn88ss, TractorLoving
10. You need to get your ego checked once in a while
ObjectivePin5704, Steve_78_OH
11. Someone got a little touchy when this subject was brought up
KGhaleon, brianlb98
Additionally, promoting open dialogues about differences can lead to greater acceptance and understanding. Creating safe spaces for discussions can help individuals express their thoughts without fear of judgment, encouraging mutual respect and connection.
Ultimately, fostering a culture of empathy can enhance social interactions and decrease feelings of isolation among individuals who may feel judged.
12. Playing things at a loud volume includes your favorite tunes too
asianpeach4121
13. You might not know what happens behind closed doors, but you can certainly judge the signs on them
Punkstarbabe, judgementaleyelash
14. Why learn the hard way when you’re just one research paper away from preventing yourself from getting hurt?
kaliahi
15. No secret is safe with them
kannakamui1041
16. Sometimes people live in their own bubble, and no one can pop it
PrinceOfThieves17
17. This makes employees have to do extra work to collect them or makes parking spaces unavailable
aj_ramone
18. There is no reason to purposely wake up a whole neighborhood because of it
Comprehensive_Day511
19. One letter can make a huge difference
angusshangus
20. Maybe set an alarm to reflect?
Mr-Nozzles
21. The kid would probably get a nickname that they’ll use more than their actual name, so they wouldn’t have to spell it
dishonourableaccount
22. It would not only instill trauma in the child, but it might trigger things for some people who are around the scene
NeverTheFirst
23. Road rage is real, or is it road change-of-personality?
Wizard_Elon_3003, xapr
24. It’s a two-thought process that you can easily consider: you cough into your hands, and now you either have to wash your hands or you pass your germs with every touch
chaotictransboy, Safe_Cup5012
25. The variations of people using loudspeakers to disturb others are endless
BigManJevnikarV2
26. Both need immense care and attention. Not to mention, they're all expensive to have
[deleted], nostalgeek81
27. Second-hand smoking leads to some serious health problems
MediocreIllness
28. It doesn't matter if they're the best-trained dog; as a responsible owner, this helps prevent accidents
Donalds_Lump
29. They might not be able to afford more, or that's what they're comfortable with
KiataTheWarrior
30. Sometimes we judge reflexively; denying that you do it at all is what gets you judged
leonra28
When you judge people for something you think is shallow, you can always adjust your perspective and consider what might have led them to their actions. This can help you lessen negative thinking and gain more compassion for others.
You can also translate your thoughts into actions or voice them only if you believe your opinion would help them. Remember that everyone’s different, but sometimes being inconsiderate can hurt others.
Psychological Analysis
This situation illustrates the common tendency to judge others based on superficial characteristics. It's essential to recognize that these judgments often reflect our own insecurities and fears, making empathy and understanding vital for healthier social interactions.
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Analysis & Alternative Approaches
Understanding the psychological underpinnings of social judgment is crucial for fostering healthier relationships. By cultivating empathy and open communication, individuals can create more inclusive and accepting social environments.
Research supports the notion that compassionate interactions lead to greater social cohesion and personal fulfillment.
