Bride's Stepmom Found Out The Soon-To-Be Married Couple Will Be Giving Gifts To Each Other's Parents And Demands That She Receive One As Well

Wedding planning can bring out the worst in family dynamics, especially when old tensions are already simmering under the surface. One bride-to-be found that out when a simple gift plan turned into a fight over who counts as family. That left out her dad’s wife, Sarah, who is only a year older than the bride and has not exactly been embraced as a parent figure.

Then Sarah saw the gifts and made her own demand, and things got awkward fast.

The thing is, OP does not think of Sarah as her parent because she's hardly a year older than her. Is OP a j*rk for leaving Sarah out?

AlwaysLiving0000

Below is OP's entire post from Reddit:

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Being a parent is more than just being married to someone's father...

catzrob89

... the title is earned, not given.

catzrob89

To be fair, Sarah is not looking to be anyone's mom; she just wants the perks that come along with it.

AlwaysLiving0000

The bride and the father of the bride need to have a serious talk before the father-daughter dance.

Youcannotbeforreal2

Sarah's intentions definitely make sense... yep.

MangoBanana2012

Sarah wants the title but not the responsibilities.

AlwaysLiving0000

This is similar to the OP asking if they should skip their sister’s vow renewal after being excluded from the wedding.

Sarah is at fault for demanding something she did nothing to earn, but OP's father is not without fault.

EvocativeEnigma

According to OP, her dad is chill about their relationship, but Sarah wants more.

AlwaysLiving0000

Someone asked OP if she would feel any differently if her dad dated someone his age.

AlwaysLiving0000

Parent-child relationships do transcend years and blood relations in some cases, but this particular one doesn't fit into that category.

CrystalQueen3000

Maybe Sarah is testing how much she can get away with.

Youcannotbeforreal2

Way to make someone else's special day about you!

Merciless-Mandy

There are other times to power-play, don't you think? Someone else's wedding doesn't seem to be the appropriate time.

Youcannotbeforreal2

The role does not come with the wedding ring, people!

type1error

OP was nice enough to invite her; Sarah clearly overstepped.

ncb_phantom

Eww.

User avatar level 2 Personal_Regular_569

We do wonder how Sarah's relationship is with OP's brothers.

ncb_phantom

Reddit went for the throat.

SoHumerus

Sarah was definitely insecure about her role in their family.

Mitchell_StephensESQ

OP has no choice; this is the best course of action.

Kathrynlena

There is no other way.

ncb_phantom

Treat her like a mom and grandma. See how she likes it.

satanik-freak

Sure, Sarah is the wife of OP's dad, but that doesn't make her OP's mom. She is not expected nor required to perform any motherly duties for OP and her adult siblings; therefore, she is not entitled to the reverence a mother receives.

Sarah was wrong for demanding a gift from the bride and groom that she has no claim on.

For another family blowup, read why she skipped her cousin’s wedding after bachelorette snub.