Struggling Wife Refuses Family Vacation Contribution - AITA?

AITA for not contributing to family vacation due to financial struggles? Husband's family pressures me to chip in, causing tension in our relationship.

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Published in Interesting
2025-08-20 06:52

Struggling Wife Refuses Family Vacation Contribution - AITA?

In a recent post, a 27-year-old woman shared her dilemma of refusing to contribute to her husband's family vacation fund despite their financial struggles. She lost her job due to the pandemic, and her husband's income isn't sufficient to cover all expenses.

Despite cutting costs and trying to make ends meet, his family expects her to chip in for the trip. When she explained her financial situation and inability to afford it, she faced accusations of selfishness from his family, putting a strain on her relationship with her husband.

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Now, she's seeking opinions on whether she's in the wrong for prioritizing their budget over family events. The comments section is divided, with many supporting her decision (NTA) to prioritize financial stability and essential needs over optional expenses like vacations.

They empathize with her financial struggles and believe her husband and his family should be more understanding. Some suggest standing firm on her financial priorities, while others encourage her to prioritize her well-being amidst the pressure to spend beyond their means.

It's a complex situation that raises questions about family dynamics, financial responsibilities, and personal boundaries.

Original Post

I (27F) recently lost my job due to the pandemic, and money has been tight for my husband, Mark (30M), and me. Mark is working, but his income alone isn't enough to cover all our expenses.

We have been trying to cut costs everywhere we can, including canceling subscriptions and cooking at home. Despite our financial strain, Mark's family decided to plan a family vacation that we simply cannot afford.

They expect all family members to chip in for the trip. When Mark asked if I could contribute my share, I hesitated, but then I told him I couldn't afford it.

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Mark was understanding, but his family was not. They accused me of being selfish and not prioritizing family.

Even after explaining our financial situation, they insisted I find a way to contribute. They even suggested I borrow money to cover my part.

This put a strain on my relationship with Mark. He believes I should make more effort to be part of the family activities, despite our financial struggles.

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I feel torn between staying true to our budget and being part of his family events. So, AITA?