Boyfriend’s "Traditional Wife" Fantasy Falls Apart After Girlfriend Says She'll Never Be A Stay-At-Home Mom
A visit home triggered a conversation that may very well end this relationship.
Some couples break up over cheating. Others fall apart over money, communication, or long distance. Then there are relationships that crumble simply because two people want very different futures. That is exactly what happened to this couple after a trip to his hometown.
A 24-year-old woman and her 25-year-old boyfriend traveled to attend a family funeral. She already knew he came from a big family, but nothing prepared her for what she saw when they arrived.
His mom runs their household like a full-time career. Thirteen kids, a spotless huge home, constant cooking, laundry, childcare, gardening, and even making her husband's breakfast and lunch every morning. His dad works, comes home to a full meal ready, and does not lift a finger in the house.
The girlfriend didn’t find anything wrong with his mom personally. In fact, she thought his mom was kind, warm, and welcoming. But she knew instantly that lifestyle wasn’t for her.
She has a career she loves and doesn’t plan on giving it up. She doesn’t dream of running a household solo or waking up before dawn to cook and iron every day.
On the flight home, her boyfriend told her how much he admired his parents' dynamic. This got her a bit unsettled, and she calmly told him she would never live that way.
At this point, he had to clarify that he didn’t expect her to be exactly like his mom, but he did expect her to stay home more if they had kids. Unfortunately for him, she wasn't buying into his idea. In fact, she made it clear that if that’s what he wanted, then they would have to go their separate ways.
Now he’s pulled back and gone quiet. And she’s wondering if that trip just revealed a future they can’t share. Scroll through the screenshots below to see how it all unfolded.
Let’s dig into the details…
Reddit.comWhen she arrived at her boyfriend’s family home, she realized his mom was basically the engine of the entire home. Nothing functions without her
Reddit.comHer boyfriend’s mom also cooks a whole lot, every single day
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On their way home, her boyfriend spoke about how much he would like to have a family similar to what his parents have. However, she made it clear that she would never be a SAHM
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She threatened that they would break up if he wants a SAHM. Ever since, he has been distant
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Answers to some questions
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From her point of view, she and her boyfriend may not be compatible
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We gathered some interesting comments from the Reddit community
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According to this Redditor, the current economy may not encourage such a family dynamic, especially with so many mouths to feed
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“How about being happy that you dodged a bullet? He was not being honest with you. He wants a wife like his mother.”
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“OF COURSE he loves the way his family lives because he grew up a boy in a patriarchal house hold!”
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“You didn’t disrespect his family, you just rejected a lifestyle that doesn’t fit your values.”
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“He's never in his life had to do his share of the load.”
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“NAH and you don't have to do anything. He asked for time and you're giving it to him.”
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Some breakups happen not because anyone is wrong, but because both people are right for themselves. This situation shows how watching someone else's family can force a couple to face a reality they haven’t talked through.
He wants a life modeled after what he grew up with, and she wants a partnership built differently. Neither desire is inherently bad, but not every pair can meet in the middle.
If they do decide to end things, it might be kinder than forcing roles that don’t fit. What do you think? Share your take in he comments.
