Woman Thought They Were Reconciling - Then Learned The Truth

Breakups can be complicated, especially when children are involved and emotions are still raw. In some cases, former partners may try to reconcile, only to discover that the past issues remain unresolved.

This can create a web of misunderstandings, hurt feelings, and difficult decisions, particularly when new relationships overlap with old commitments. For OP, a camping trip meant to rekindle a family connection turned into a situation that revealed lingering dishonesty and misplaced priorities.

OP and her children’s father had separated, but shortly after he began a new relationship, he suggested joining a family camping trip instead of vacationing with his new partner’s family. Believing they might work things out, OP agreed.

The trip was cut short by the news that his brother was on life support, leading to weeks of hospital visits. OP later learned that during this time, he was still seeing the other woman. Initially, OP stayed quiet out of respect for his grief, but eventually told the woman what had been happening.

After confronting him together, OP cut off contact. Following his brother’s death, the woman, who had never met the children or the brother, announced she would attend the celebration of life with their father.

When OP’s oldest said he didn’t want her there, she dismissed his feelings. OP chose to honor her children’s wishes, leaving her wondering if she was wrong for doing so.

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Respecting kids’ boundaries to protect the relationship with them.

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OP is looking out for her kids.

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OP's kids don't want to attend.

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Kids’ wishes should guide the decision.

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OP is standing up for her kids against a toxic ex.

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OP's ex is forcing the kids into unnecessary drama during a difficult time

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OP shouldn't let her issues with her ex damage their kids' relationship with their father

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All wrong, except the kids and girlfriend.

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OP made a thoughtful decision based on her children’s well-being. She didn’t forbid her ex from attending or bringing someone, but chose not to involve the kids in a situation they weren’t ready for.

Respecting their grief and boundaries was more important than forcing a meeting. Her actions were fair, protective, and focused on emotional stability - not exclusion. Given the circumstances and the kids’ clearly expressed discomfort, she acted responsibly and with compassion. There's no fault in putting their needs first during a difficult time.