Nonprofit Helped 300 Terminally Ill Couples Create Their Dream Weddings Against All Odds

Ricardo and Eunice Hernandez thought they had eight good years, then 2018 hit with a pancreatic cancer diagnosis. By March 2022, they were still fighting for the same thing, a 10-year vow renewal, until he passed away just five months later.

And they are not alone. Beth Freeman and Candace Moore planned a Long Beach wedding in February 2024, 16 years after they first met and four years after Beth’s metastatic colon cancer diagnosis, only to lose Beth two months after saying “I do.” Rich and Karen Mastropietro renewed vows in July 2019 for their 25th anniversary, then Karen died two years later after ovarian cancer.

These couples were given one chance to turn terminal timelines into wedding days, and the whole thing is heartbreaking in the best way.

Ricardo and Eunice Hernandez had been married for eight years when he received a pancreatic cancer diagnosis in 2018. The organization helped them fulfill their wish for a 10-year vow renewal in March 2022. Sadly, he passed away five months later.

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Beth Freeman and Candace Moore tied the knot in Long Beach, California, in February 2024, 16 years after their initial meeting and four years following Beth’s diagnosis of metastatic colon cancer. Unfortunately, she passed away two months after their wedding.

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Rich and Karen Mastropietro renewed their vows in July 2019 in celebration of their 25th wedding anniversary. Karen passed away two years later, following a four-year battle with ovarian cancer.

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The Hernandez story sets the tone, because Ricardo’s vow renewal happened in March 2022 and still ended with his death five months later.

Rituals of connection, such as weddings, can significantly strengthen bonds during challenging times." Celebrating love through a wedding, especially for terminally ill couples, serves as a powerful reminder of their shared journey and commitment.

Moreover, establishing these rituals can be a source of comfort and stability. As couples navigate their circumstances, they may benefit from integrating small, meaningful practices into their daily lives to enhance emotional support.

Then Beth Freeman and Candace Moore step in, celebrating a Long Beach wedding in February 2024, right before Beth died two months afterward.

Additionally, couples can implement gratitude exercises, such as sharing three things they appreciate about each other daily. This practice can help shift focus from the illness to the love and support present in their lives, creating lasting emotional benefits.

It’s hard not to think of the AITA question about whether Beth should lend money to struggling parents, after repeated requests and financial mismanagement.

“We ask a lot of questions in the interview about their story,” Wicksall explains. “'Tell us how you met, how you discovered your diagnosis, and why is it important for you to get married or renew your vows?

And what do you love about each other?' So many couples are never asked that question. We give them each the chance to speak, and they normally cry the entire time — and so do we.”

If chosen, the nonprofit, which allocates $2,000 for each “wish” in addition to donated services, starts reaching out to wedding planners in the couple’s area, sharing their story and asking if they would be willing to help organize the event.

“When they called me, I was like, ‘I can't say no,’” recalls Georgia-based wedding planner Lydia Leek, who coordinated a wedding in August for a young couple, Skylar Bernstein and Sam Wombough, after the 22-year-old bride-to-be was diagnosed with a rare and aggressive form of brain cancer.

Given the urgency, Leek immediately got to work, dedicating hours to speaking with Bernstein and Wombough to understand the atmosphere they envisioned for their wedding. Afterward, she contacted her network of vendors to see if they would be interested in contributing by donating their services.

“I spoke to more than 12 of them, from florists and photographers to cake caterers, and everyone was so willing to help,” she recalls. “I didn’t have to ask anybody twice.

They all just said yes.”

Wicksall and her organization worked quickly to fulfill Tommy Szmelter and Hillary Moore's wish for a wedding in November 2021, five years after Hillary was diagnosed with a rare type of adrenal cancer. She passed away three months later.

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Rich and Karen Mastropietro make it even more intense, with a July 2019 vow renewal for their 25th anniversary before Karen’s ovarian cancer took her two years later.

The outcome was a nearly $60,000 wedding at the Conley Creek venue in Blairsville, Georgia, set against the stunning backdrop of the Blue Ridge Mountains. “It was everything I could have dreamed of,” Bernstein says, describing it as "perfect."

“And it was all done for us.” Unsurprisingly, these ceremonies often go beyond being just weddings or vow renewals; they become a celebration of life.

“People often tell us how wonderful it is to get everyone they love together in the same room before they pass away,” Wicksall shares. “A lot of times, our 'wishes' are very much like a living funeral.

We did one two years ago where the groom went to sleep and died the night of his wish. Every single person he loved got to be there to say goodbye to him that night.”

Soon after Tess and Courtney Maki-Dawson began dating in 2014, Tess was diagnosed with metastatic breast cancer. Wicksall’s nonprofit helped arrange their wedding in July 2019. Despite facing several challenges, multiple surgeries, and the further spread of her cancer, Tess continues to live with the disease.

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That’s why the $2,000 “wish” plus donated wedding services matters, because it turns interviews about how they met into actual ceremonies for couples like these.

Over time, Wicksall has realized that even the best-planned ceremonies often need to adapt at the last moment due to health complications. “If we have a venue lined up with everything totally planned out and at the last minute the person takes a turn for the worse, we can pivot and do it in their backyard or in a hospital room,” she explains.

“Our teams fully understand that at the end of the day, it all comes down to what the wish recipient can handle on that day.” For couples who often feel like they're running out of time, the most important thing is that, for a brief moment, Wicksall and her dedicated network of wedding professionals across the country can offer a joyous break from the endless cycle of doctor visits and treatments.

“Moms get to put on a beautiful gown and either wear a wig or wear their normal hair, have their hair and makeup done, and feel beautiful for the first time in 18 months because chemotherapy has ravaged them,” Wicksall shares. “It gives people a day when they just don't have to think about the hell that they're currently living through...

We’re in the business of hope because hope gives people something to look forward to and something to live for.”

The weddings orchestrated for terminally ill couples create a profound emotional resonance that extends far beyond the ceremonial day. Celebrating love in such challenging circumstances not only infuses joy into their lives but also provides a sense of closure that is often elusive in the face of terminal illness.

These couples embrace rituals and practice gratitude, which serve to cultivate resilience and deepen their connections. Each wedding stands as a testament to the enduring power of love, illuminating the strength found even amid life's most daunting challenges.

Love didn’t get postponed, it got dressed up, and that’s what makes it hit so hard.

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