Woman Accuses Her Recently Widowed Coworker That He Is Misleading People By Still Wearing His Wedding Ring

A widow’s wedding ring can mean something very different to the person wearing it than to the people looking on. In this story, one coworker decided that her colleague’s ring was sending the wrong message, and she did not keep that opinion to herself.

James lost his wife eight months ago, but he still wears his wedding ring. His coworker, OP, thought that was misleading, especially if other people assumed he was available, and she confronted him about it at work.

That conversation did not go over well, and now the office is taking sides.

Losing someone we love is such a terrible blow, and each of us deals with it differently

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OP shared her story:

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It is about her coworker James

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She asked him why does he still wear his wedding ring...

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Karen (OP) thinks it is misleading...

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James didn't take it well

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He doesn't care what other people think, and he would turn down any woman who would approach him..

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Karen continued being insensitive and pushy...

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So James snapped...

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Wedding-ring fallout with Karen and James brings to mind the bride debating whether to exclude her sister for insulting her engagement ring.

Their coworkers agree that it was none of her business to ask these questions...

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So, she asks who is right here:

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She clarified some things (like it would help)

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Poor Karen

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Redditors didn't go easy on our OP

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And they all agree

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This is a good point

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The only thing that matters is:

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OP was definitely cruel

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Why is it her business?

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OP doesn't have any right to tell people how should they grieve...

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OP is probably interested in James. Romantically...

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But she chose an extremely rude way to show it.

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Fred Colby, the co-founder of Pathways Men’s Grief Group and the author of ”Widower to Widower,” says that “Most men tend to be loners. And I know that for a lot of us, taking the ring off is an act of disrespect.”

He believes that “James” is experiencing the so-called “Deep grieving” phase, the most challenging of them all. It is entirely expected that he doesn’t want to take the ring off.

“Many of us, including myself, have a hard time visualizing our wives in our thoughts,” he explained, adding that “James” is possibly wearing it for her memory and to show he’s still committed to his late partner. This story is a good example of how not to act around grieving people.

You should be supportive and not inquisitive. Let people mourn their loved ones the way they want to.

Ready for another messy grief twist, read about the woman considering divorce after her husband secretly sold her late mother’s jewelry.