Woman Accuses Her Recently Widowed Coworker That He Is Misleading People By Still Wearing His Wedding Ring

Losing someone we love is such a terrible blow, and each of us deals with it differently. But the most important thing is to remember that grief is a process, and it is essential to go through it and not suppress feelings.

So, whatever is beneficial, talking, wearing your wedding ring… do it. If your friend, coworker, or acquaintance lost someone, the only thing you should ask is, “How are you?” That’s it.

If they are willing to talk about it, your job is to listen. And that’s it. Pushing someone to talk about things that are uncomfortable for them is out of the question.

Somehow, it eludes some people, and they poke their noses into things that are none of their business. Our OP is one of those people.

This "office Karen" posted a question on Reddit. She asks if it was wrong to question her colleague’s wedding ring.

He lost his wife eight months ago, and she felt it was inappropriate for him to wear the wedding ring, thus misleading people about his marital status.

Of course, his reaction wasn’t pretty, and now she asks if what she did was so wrong to cause a reaction like that.

Losing someone we love is such a terrible blow, and each of us deals with it differently

Jonathan Francisca (not the actual photo)

OP shared her story:

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It is about her coworker James

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She asked him why does he still wear his wedding ring...

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Karen (OP) thinks it is misleading...

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James didn't take it well

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He doesn't care what other people think, and he would turn down any woman who would approach him..

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Karen continued being insensitive and pushy...

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So James snapped...

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Their coworkers agree that it was none of her business to ask these questions...

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So, she asks who is right here:

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She clarified some things (like it would help)

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Poor Karen

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Redditors didn't go easy on our OP

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And they all agree

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This is a good point

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The only thing that matters is:

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OP was definitely cruel

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Why is it her business?

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OP doesn't have any right to tell people how should they grieve...

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OP is probably interested in James. Romantically...

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But she chose an extremely rude way to show it.

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Fred Colby, the co-founder of Pathways Men’s Grief Group and the author of ”Widower to Widower,” says that “Most men tend to be loners. And I know that for a lot of us, taking the ring off is an act of disrespect.”

He believes that “James” is experiencing the so-called “Deep grieving” phase, the most challenging of them all. It is entirely expected that he doesn’t want to take the ring off.

“Many of us, including myself, have a hard time visualizing our wives in our thoughts,” he explained, adding that “James” is possibly wearing it for her memory and to show he’s still committed to his late partner. This story is a good example of how not to act around grieving people.

You should be supportive and not inquisitive. Let people mourn their loved ones the way they want to.