Young Woman Refuses to Help Her Sick Parents After They Disowned Her Because She Is an Exotic Dancer
People who disown their children should remember that it is permanent. Their children tend to remember things like that…
A young woman who once walked away from her religious family is now being asked to help them through a financial and medical crisis. The twist is that her parents disowned her years ago after she left college and started making good money as an exotic dancer.
Now well-off and living her own life, she is refusing to step in while her parents face health problems and bankruptcy. The situation has reopened old wounds, and even other relatives are weighing in.
She brought the story to Reddit, and the reactions were not exactly subtle. Read on.
OP asks:
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She dropped out of college because she was making a lot of money stripping, and her parents disowned her because of it.
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Nine years later, she is well-off.
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Her parents contacted her, asking for help.
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OP said no because she doesn't have parents anymore. Also, why would they want sin-tainted money?
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Some family members also contacted OP, but she wouldn't budge.
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Now OP is having second thoughts. She asks the Reddit crowd to help her figure things out.
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That question set off a familiar kind of Reddit debate.
One Redditor had a similar experience:
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She gave OP good advice.
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Some commenters started talking about what she should do with the money if she decides to help.
This also echoes the AITA where a woman refused to keep lending money to her grandmother, sparking nonstop family tension.
Some Redditors had interesting ideas about how OP should arrange the money.
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OP doesn't owe her parents anything, but she owes it to herself to have a clear conscience. And if giving money accomplishes that... she should do it.
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Not everyone thought helping was the right move.
Some Redditors have done what OP is considering.
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This Redditor is spot on.
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Beliefs?
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Hypocrites... that's a fair judgment.
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"Money grab" - sounds just about right.
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The comments kept circling back to the same point, her parents made their choice first.
Some of the people online thought OP shouldn't help her parents.
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Or maybe help, but like this:
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The bottom line is:
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The majority of people in the comments section have backed the OP and told her that she did the right thing because her parents made a decision years ago that they never apologized for. How can a parent abandon a child?
There is a saying that it is much easier for a child to abandon its parents than the other way around. OP's parents have obviously never heard of that saying.
What were they expecting? Open arms and a warm embrace after nine years of no contact?
And how strong are their beliefs now? Sin is not a problem when you need money?
For another “family pressure vs. your boundaries” clash, read how an irresponsible sister’s loan request backfired.
