Woman Stops Cooking For Her Husband’s Widowed Friend When He Stepped Over The Line And Asked Her To Cook For His Dinner Party

Some favors start small, then quietly turn into a full-time job. That is exactly what happened when one woman began cooking for her husband’s widowed friend, only to watch the requests keep growing.

What began as one meal a week soon turned into several dinners, along with suggestions, pressure, and calls to her husband when she did not respond fast enough. Then one missed text led to an argument that made the whole arrangement blow up.

Now she has stopped cooking for him, and her husband thinks she is overreacting. Read on.

It's fine to help someone in a time of need by providing a meal or two, as long as they don't grow too accustomed to it.

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One Reddit user shared her problem: She started cooking for her husband's widowed friend, and it soon escalated.

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It started as one meal a week; it soon turned into 3-5 times, with "requests and suggestions."

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The arrangement did not stay small for long.

It was time- and money-consuming.

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Dave even sent suggestions to OP on how she could improve her cooking.

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And Dave was persistent. If OP didn't reply, he would call her husband.

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That is when the requests started feeling like pressure.

One day, OP missed a text from Dave. When she got home at 9 p.m., she found her husband upset.

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Dave wanted her to cook for his friends.

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And he had to order out.

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Her husband was angry.

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This mirrors the freeloader friend who kept borrowing money and never paid back, forcing boundaries.

So OP said she wouldn't cook for Dale.

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Not even once a week. Her husband thinks she is overreacting.

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And that she is insensitive toward his friend.

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Dale doesn't work, so he can't afford to pay for food. Well, he has time to cook then, right?

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And Dale is not afraid to ask others for help too...

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And he pokes his nose everywhere.

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Husband sure likes this Dale.

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OP has help from her husband, but not with cooking.

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Redditors were not kind:

Redditors were not kind:

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Yup.

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Many Redditors agree that HB is a part of the problem.

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People in the comments did not think the husband was helping matters.

And they ask good questions.

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Sounds like Dale likes to take advantage of people.

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Show him your true cruel side...

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They all take OP for granted.

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Good advice.

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The bottom line:

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It's obvious that we have a choosing beggar here. And our OP is not the only person he is taking advantage of.

Of course, the grieving period is different for each person. But not working for months and depending on your friends to get by is unacceptable.

You can also grieve while you work, while you cook, and while you do chores…

Before you keep cooking for Dave, read why one woman was told to say no to a friend’s money requests.