Woman Stops Cooking For Her Husband’s Widowed Friend When He Stepped Over The Line And Asked Her To Cook For His Dinner Party

The way we act when our family and friends are in trouble or having a hard time shows what kind of people we are. It's easy to be good and kind in good times.

However, it's during the hard times that people show their true colors. It is always admirable to assist a friend or even a friend's friend.

Not only does it restore faith in humanity, but it also helps an individual overcome a difficult situation that they might not have been able to handle on their own. However, one thing that most people do not anticipate, and thus find themselves caught in, is when this friend goes too far, either becoming a picky beggar, a moocher, or a straight-up jerk.

It's gotten to the point where refusing to help makes you look like the bad guy, while continuing to aid the person in need only encourages them to misuse your assistance. Choose wisely whom you are doing favors for.

Some people won't give you credit if you help them out a thousand times, but as soon as you refuse to do something, you become the worst person in the world.

Take a look at this story—you will see what we mean:

It's fine to help someone in a time of need by providing a meal or two, as long as they don't grow too accustomed to it.

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One Reddit user shared her problem: She started cooking for her husband's widowed friend, and it soon escalated.

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It started as one meal a week; it soon turned into 3-5 times, with "requests and suggestions."

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It was time- and money-consuming.

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Dave even sent suggestions to OP on how she could improve her cooking.

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And Dave was persistent. If OP didn't reply, he would call her husband.

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One day, OP missed a text from Dave. When she got home at 9 p.m., she found her husband upset.

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Dave wanted her to cook for his friends.

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And he had to order out.

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Her husband was angry.

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So OP said she wouldn't cook for Dale.

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Not even once a week. Her husband thinks she is overreacting.

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And that she is insensitive toward his friend.

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Dale doesn't work, so he can't afford to pay for food. Well, he has time to cook then, right?

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And Dale is not afraid to ask others for help too...

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And he pokes his nose everywhere.

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Husband sure likes this Dale.

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OP has help from her husband, but not with cooking.

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Redditors were not kind:

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Yup.

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Many Redditors agree that HB is a part of the problem.

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And they ask good questions.

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Sounds like Dale likes to take advantage of people.

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Show him your true cruel side...

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They all take OP for granted.

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Good advice.

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The bottom line:

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It's obvious that we have a choosing beggar here. And our OP is not the only person he is taking advantage of.

Of course, the grieving period is different for each person. But not working for months and depending on your friends to get by is unacceptable.

You can also grieve while you work, while you cook, and while you do chores…