20 Relationship Mistakes Ladies Made That They'll Never Repeat Again

Some relationship lessons only make sense after you have lived through the mess yourself. That is exactly why this Reddit thread hits so hard, because it asks women to name the mistakes they made in past relationships that they will never repeat.

The answers range from ignoring red flags to shrinking themselves to keep the peace, and each one feels painfully familiar. It is a reminder that love can teach fast, but it can also teach the hard way.

Here are the responses that stood out most.

1. If your partner can't step up and put in their fair share of effort, then maybe you should look for someone else who will.

CatrionaShadowleaf

2. Yes, we should also learn to appreciate the "boring" moments.

bobs_best_burger

3. She makes a lot of valid points. We need to raise our standards.

carazorander

Some of these replies are painfully relatable.

4. It's definitely not fair to anyone in the relationship. It's better to be honest.

the_drunken_lamb

5. They can change, but the question is: will they actually do it, or will they just keep letting you think they will?

Mistygirl179

6. Basic hygiene and taking care of yourself is the bare minimum—for yourself and for others.

megikyu

7. Plus, you don't exist just to organize his things for him.

wachailymay

This is where the thread starts getting very specific.

8. Anyone can treat you right, but it's not something you should settle for.

lilith_9398

This is also like the friend who set up her crush and got blindsided by their past history.

9. Never silence your thoughts or emotions for the benefit of someone else.

mamblepamble

10. There is a right way to tell people what they're doing wrong, rather than putting them down.

Keekee-88

11. Ladies, always trust your instincts. They're usually right.

No-Concentrate-7142

That advice comes after a few hard-earned lessons.

12. Don't wait for the second time they put you in the hospital to leave the relationship.

meowdolf--kitler

13. The cool girl speech from the movie *Gone Girl* perfectly sums this up.

moopietookie

14. Please don't ignore the warning signs. They're blaring for a reason.

xLadyLightx

15. They have to earn the precious parts of your story. You can't just give them away for the tiniest of efforts.

mtnmetalhead1223

16. You can't be the one to carry all their baggage.

Dancingplantpot

The last few responses land with even more weight.

17. You're not dating the "potential"; you're dating the current state of the man.

chelsturner45

18. You should take care of your relationship, but you must always put yourself first.

grapeskins

19. Your feelings matter, and you should always give yourself a chance to care for them.

limeblue31

20. Your boundaries will protect you, and you should guard them well.

goldandjade

It's better to know what to avoid before entering a relationship, but of course, not everyone has that privilege. Sometimes, you have to experience it yourself to learn the lesson and know what to do next if you encounter a similar situation.

It may be a hard road to travel, but sometimes, the lessons you learn from your experiences stick much better. They can even make you a better person for it.

Some lessons only arrive after the damage is done.

Brutally honest advice backfired, when my friend blamed me after a dating breakup, did I go too far with tough dating advice?