Woman Refuses To Co-own A House With Her Husband, And He's Taking It Personally
Many couples dream of owning a house together, but not everyone subscribes to that fantasy.
One woman’s decision to buy a house in her own name has turned into a serious fight with her husband.
Reddit user u/Vast_Parfait5926 says she wants the home to be hers alone, especially after watching her husband struggle with money and rely on his parents for help. He, however, suddenly wants to co-own the property now that she has found the house she wants.
That shift has left the couple stuck on a question that could affect both their finances and their marriage.
"AITA for not wanting to co-own a house with my husband?"
u/Vast_Parfait5926The Redditor's husband comes from a wealthy family, so his parents insisted that she sign a prenup.
u/Vast_Parfait5926According to the prenup, the Redditor would leave empty-handed in the event of a divorce. However, if her husband were to cheat, she would receive alimony.
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The house they live in is owned by his parents.
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The Redditor admits that living in the house her in-laws provided has relieved her of many expenses. In fact, it has made it easier for her to pay off her loans and save for her own house.
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The Redditor sees her husband as someone who doesn't make smart financial decisions.
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She's eager to have a house in her name, and she is not ready to share that pride with anyone.
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The Redditor's husband is furious about her decision to exclude him from this investment.
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She's concerned he won't even be able to pay the mortgage.
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A lot of people in the community decided to weigh in on the issue. Here's what they had to say about it:
"Talk to an attorney...the house could be considered a marital asset even if it’s in only your name."
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She seems to have already handled that part.
This is similar to the Redditor battling in-laws’ controlling prenup-style strings on financial support.
It seems she already did.
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"Now that you've done the hard part, he suddenly wants to reap benefits he did not sow."
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Buy it, rent it, and enjoy the equity.
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Apparently, her in-laws have no problem with her buying a house of her own.
If his parents can protect their assets, then you should protect yours.
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Apparently, her in-laws have no problem with her buying a house of her own.
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Sense or Nonsense?
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"If the marriage fails and he's a joint owner, you'll have to pay twice for your house to buy him out, or be forced to sell it and split the proceeds."
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Some commenters think the family is acting entitled.
"You shouldn't let his words influence how you spend your money."
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But the Redditor begs to differ.
"By no means does this mean you do not trust him; it means you are being prepared."
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Neither the Redditor nor her husband is ready to back down on their stance. They've been discussing this topic for quite some time now, which has led to a dead end.
The Redditor wants to be able to call the shots regarding her future plans, but with her husband not on the same page, it could lead to a major rift in their marriage.
Hopefully, they can come to a compromise before things get ugly.
Want the rent vs. buy fight too, where financial stress sparks a heated debate? Check out this AITA about pushing to rent instead of buying a house.
