AITA for Providing Music Critique in New Band?

OP walked into a new band thinking it would be a fun way to connect with “higher end” musicians, and then immediately realized this group runs on vibes, not polish. And the weird part is, everyone has some kind of musical background, just not the same lane.

Here’s the complication: OP is 18, a music major in college, and has six years of practicing. After helping a member nail hearing and hitting the right vocal pitch, that member disappears to the bathroom. OP then tells another singer to match the concert G pitch, explains how pitch slips happen, and even updates the music director, who admits he heard the problem but stayed quiet.

So now OP is stuck wondering if trying to fix pitch issues in rehearsal makes them the a*****e.

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i (m18) js joined a band that has a lot of singing. i thought it would be something fun to connect with more high end musicians but realized it was a group of people that enjoy music and each person has a slight background in some sort of music.

Being a music major in college and a practicing musician of 6 years i feel im one of the more (not most) qualified to give advice and help out despite my age. after helping someone with hearing and hitting the right vocal pitch, said member goes to the bathroom. all i did was ask the person (who has a slight background in drums and miscellaneous percussion) to match my concert G pitch and explained how when singing or playing something it get very easy to fall off the pitch, as it has happened to me several times, then proceeded to talk to the music director about it; even he commented on how he heard it but didnt say anything.

i tend to have a blunt nature and state things as it is as a result to my music profession: state the problem, fix it, keep going. its nothing against the person who did something wrong, mistakes happen all the time but turning a blind eye to it will make the mistake a problem.

i dont believe i said anything negative or degrading. Am i the a*****e for trying to fix something that would benefit us as a group?

please tell me if i am and hoe i should change the next possible outcome

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OP’s blunt “state the problem, fix it, keep going” style kicks in right after the bathroom break, and that’s when the mood shifts.

Instead of letting the pitch problem slide like the music director did, OP goes straight to the group with a clear G pitch fix.

The band members who “have a slight background” in drums and percussion hear OP’s correction as criticism, not teamwork.

With the music director confirming he noticed it too, OP now has to deal with the fact nobody addressed it except them.

We're curious to hear your perspective. Share your thoughts in the comments.

OP might not be the a*****e, but the band could decide OP’s “help” is just too blunt to keep.

For another ultimatum gone nuclear, see what happened when friends demanded declawing over a cat allergy.