Am I the Jerk for Failing to Share My Location with Mom?

AITA for not checking my location sent to my mom? Readers weigh in on this issue concerning a 22-year-old and his mother's demanding rule.

Damjan

Published in Interesting
22 Dec 2025

Am I the Jerk for Failing to Share My Location with Mom?

In family dynamics, boundaries can often blur, especially between parents and their adult children. A recent Reddit thread has sparked a lively discussion on this topic, focusing on a 22-year-old son who finds himself in a challenging situation with his mother.

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The young man is accustomed to sending his location to his mother whenever he goes out for an extended period. However, when his location message failed to send during a date, it led to an emotional confrontation that left both parties feeling hurt and misunderstood.

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As the conversation unfolds, users are weighing in on whether the son is in the wrong for not checking if the message went through or if his mother’s reaction is overly dramatic, given his age. Many commenters are quick to point out that at 22, he is an independent adult and shouldn't feel obligated to share his whereabouts in such a controlling manner.

The tension between the need for parental concern and the son's desire for autonomy raises essential questions about healthy boundaries in familial relationships. With a mix of empathy and critique, the responses explore themes of emotional manipulation, anxiety, and the importance of establishing independence.

How should adult children navigate these dynamics while still respecting their parents' feelings? Let's dive into the comments and see how others perceive this complex situation.

Original Post

I (22M) went on a date with the girl I've been pursuing today. My (53F) mom and I have a rule where I send my location everytime I will be out for a long period of time.

I sent the location at 10:08am as I was supposed to since I was at the location and it never went through on WhatsApp. So I called my mom at around 3:37pm when I was omw back home to tell her what happened and I could hear from her voice that she was upset.

When I got home she didnt speak to me for a bit but eventually she entered my bedroom telling me how she wouldn't care about how long I went out or if I left and never came back. She was crying while telling me this and everytime I tried to tell my side she would tell me to shut up.

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Tbf this is the second time this has happened. Idk why sometimes my location doesnt go through.

I should've checked but I was caught up with other things. I also feel shes going overboard and its not the first times shes said things like this.

I honestly start to feel like Im a terrible son sometimes eventhough I dont do as bad as other sons. I want someone's perspective.

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