Redditor Shares Frustrations Over His Roommate Who Feels He Is Entitled To His Money Since They Live Together

It started as a normal roommate setup, then turned into a nonstop stream of “you should pay for this” energy. OP thought he was just sharing rent with a guy, but his roommate treated the shared space like an ATM with a couch.

The frustrations pile up fast, from the roommate bringing his sunglasses to a white-water rafting trip and losing them, to him later demanding money to replace them. Then there was the milk situation, where he’d drink the other roommate’s milk, even when that person didn’t get any of the milk he bought. And it gets even messier when OP refuses to buy a big TV for the common room, and his roommate calls him selfish.

Here’s the full story of how one roommate’s “entitlement” turned daily life into a money war.

The OP is frustrated over his roommate's sense of entitlement. He decided to share the story with an online community.

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He tells the community all the instances that make his bad roommate a choosing beggar.

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One time, this roommate brought his sunglasses to a white-water rafting trip.

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After the rafting sunglasses disaster, OP says his roommate acted like the loss was everyone else’s problem, including the other roommate’s wallet.

The Roots of Entitlement in Relationships

Entitlement often stems from early developmental experiences where individuals learn to expect their needs to be met without question.

This behavior can arise when individuals feel insecure in their relationships, leading them to assert dominance over shared resources.

When living with others, especially roommates, financial discussions can become a minefield of underlying psychological issues related to trust and fairness.

The guy lost his sunglasses. Now, he wants money from the OP and the other roommate so he can replace them.

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The bad roommate would drink the other roommate's milk.

There were even times when the other roommate didn't get to drink any of the milk he bought.

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The bad roommate wanted the OP to buy a large TV so that BR could enjoy it with his friends in the common room.

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The milk drama made it clear this wasn’t a one-off mistake, because BR kept taking what he wanted and leaving nothing for the guy who actually paid.

It also echoes the Reddit roommate who skipped bills, forcing a debate over asking for more.

By establishing boundaries early, roommates can create a framework that supports mutual respect and understanding.

Using 'I' statements—like 'I feel uncomfortable when...'—to express feelings without assigning blame can facilitate healthier discussions about finances.

When the OP refused to purchase the TV, the bad roommate called him selfish.

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What a parasite!

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Lots of people can relate to the OP's challenges with a bad roommate.

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Then came the TV demand, where OP’s refusal to buy a large screen for BR and his friends was apparently the ultimate betrayal.

Co-dependency can often play a role in financial disputes among roommates, particularly when one person feels overly responsible for the other's well-being.

It's essential for those in shared living situations to recognize these dynamics and actively work to maintain a balance that honors each person’s autonomy.

It's really annoying when roommates feel that they're entitled to your money and items.

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Some roommates act like they're thieves.

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By the time OP got called selfish for not funding the common room, the whole apartment dynamic felt less like roommates and more like freeloading with receipts.

On top of being annoying, it's definitely challenging to have a roommate who thinks they own your stuff and money. Sadly, most college students have no choice but to bear with it until they move out.

The best solution against these people is to keep your food and belongings in your room so the bad roommate won't have access to them. Make sure to stand your ground when they ask for money.

It's perfectly okay to say no when you feel uncomfortable lending or sharing money with someone who is not respecting your boundaries.

Implementing a financial agreement can be an effective strategy to mitigate conflicts about money.

Entitlement issues often arise in shared living situations, complicating what should be a comfortable experience. In the article, the frustrations of one Redditor highlight how these feelings can strain roommate relationships. The importance of recognizing underlying insecurities cannot be overstated. When one roommate feels a sense of ownership over the other's finances, it can create a rift that disrupts daily life.

Now OP is stuck wondering if he’s the problem, or if BR just thinks shared living means shared money.

That sounds rough, see what happened when a roommate borrowed $500 and refused to repay.