Roommate Battle Erupts Over Best Room In New Apartment Despite One Covering Majority Of Expenses

"I am bringing a large majority of the shared items."

A 28-year-old woman refused to let a coin flip decide who gets the best room in her new apartment, and it turns out that decision is what set off the whole roommate war.

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The backstory is messy, fast. OP is moving in with two roommates, and one of them suggested flipping a coin for room choice. The other roommate disagreed, especially after OP revealed she was covering most of the shared stuff and paying the utilities, while the other roommate is still in grad school and has no checkbook or income to contribute the same way.

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Now it’s not just about walls and closet space, it’s about who paid first, who owns what, and whether she’s trying to “choose” more than a room.

OP's moving to a new place; one roommate suggests flipping a coin for room choice, but the other disagrees.

OP's moving to a new place; one roommate suggests flipping a coin for room choice, but the other disagrees.Reddit
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They feel this way because they’re providing most shared items and covering utilities, as their roommate is a student.

They feel this way because they’re providing most shared items and covering utilities, as their roommate is a student.Reddit
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The conflict over room selection in this new apartment highlights a common yet complex issue in roommate dynamics.

She lacks a checkbook, so they paid deposits and rent. She thinks they should pay more—are they in the wrong?

Scroll down to see what people had to say...

She lacks a checkbook, so they paid deposits and rent. She thinks they should pay more—are they in the wrong?Reddit

NTA—They're handling everything while their roommate’s still in grad school. The roommate needs to step up!

NTA—They're handling everything while their roommate’s still in grad school. The roommate needs to step up!Reddit

That coin-flip idea goes out the window the moment OP points out she handled deposits and rent, while her roommate is still in grad school.

Studies show that financial stress can exacerbate tensions in shared living situations, often leading to resentment and conflict.

NTA—She has no income, and they’re doing everything. Why should she choose the room?

NTA—She has no income, and they’re doing everything. Why should she choose the room?Reddit

NTA—If she leaves, the furnishings stay. Greater ownership is theirs. They should tell her to find another place!

NTA—If she leaves, the furnishings stay. Greater ownership is theirs. They should tell her to find another place!Reddit

The argument gets sharper when OP admits she is also covering utilities and bringing in most of the shared items, so the “best room” feels like a different kind of deal.

This is the same kind of blowup as when siblings argued over who drives on a family road trip, and one person refused.

Effective communication is crucial in resolving conflicts between roommates.

NAH. If she's on the lease, she has an equal say, but they bring more to the apartment.

NAH. If she's on the lease, she has an equal say, but they bring more to the apartment.Reddit

NAH. If bills are split 50/50, she has a say. Handling details isn’t power-tripping.

NAH. If bills are split 50/50, she has a say. Handling details isn’t power-tripping.Reddit

People start taking sides, with some saying OP should get priority since the furnishings and the bulk of the payments are hers to begin with.

Moreover, scheduling regular check-ins can provide an opportunity to address ongoing concerns and prevent issues from escalating.

This strategy can enhance roommate relationships and improve overall living conditions.

YTA—They might have been if the situation was stated before laying out the deposit, but it wasn’t.

YTA—They might have been if the situation was stated before laying out the deposit, but it wasn’t.Reddit

If they can’t agree, weigh room payments incrementally until one accepts the smaller room. A coin flip works too!

If they can’t agree, weigh room payments incrementally until one accepts the smaller room. A coin flip works too!Reddit

And when the thread suggests weighing room payments instead of flipping a coin, it shows how this room choice turned into a whole money fight between roommates.

Room selection isn't just about square footage—it's about harmony. Perhaps next time, they'll settle disputes over coffee instead of coin flips.

After all, a peaceful home is priceless, and maybe the real treasure is the friendship they keep intact amidst the furniture battles.

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NTA—They bought most shared items, so they deserve first pick. A 4 sqft difference isn’t worth more rent.

NTA—They bought most shared items, so they deserve first pick. A 4 sqft difference isn’t worth more rent.Reddit

If it's only 4 sqft, why the fuss? The other room has a private bathroom!

If it's only 4 sqft, why the fuss? The other room has a private bathroom!Reddit

Practical Steps for Establishing Fairness

Creating a shared expenses spreadsheet can help ensure transparency in financial contributions.

This approach can help mitigate tensions and promote a sense of shared responsibility.

The conflict over room selection in the new apartment highlights the complexity of roommate relationships.

Nobody wants to be the one paying for the better room and still ending up the bad guy.

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