Woman Upset Boyfriend’s Wealthy Family Wants To Stay Over Instead Of Booking A Hotel
"I don't understand why they would want to cram into our small apartment"
A 28-year-old woman refused to give up her bed for her boyfriend’s wealthy brother and sister-in-law, and somehow that turned into a full-blown Reddit debate. The request sounds small at first, just a weekend visit, but the details make it feel way bigger than “family time.”
Here’s the setup: BIL and his wife are flying up soon to stay with the couple for the weekend. The OP says the only “options” being offered are that she and her boyfriend give up their bed. She’s anxious about having others in her space, and she’s also dealing with the fact that this isn’t some broke-in-law situation, they have a huge home in Austin, BIL is set to retire early, and they’re still asking to stay put instead of booking a hotel.
Now it’s a question of whether the OP is being unreasonable, or whether her boyfriend’s family is quietly treating her comfort like it’s negotiable. Here’s the full story.
The OP writes...
RedditBIL and his wife want to fly up in a couple of weeks from now to stay with them for the weekend
RedditThe only options that the OP can see are that they give up their bed to them
Reddit
They own a huge home in Austin proper, and OP's BIL is set to retire early
Reddit
The OP is very much a creature of comfort and feel anxious with others in her space
Reddit
When BIL and his wife plan to “just stay over” instead of booking a hotel, the OP immediately clocks the real issue, her bed and her space are on the chopping block.
The fact that BIL is set to retire early and they already have a huge Austin home makes OP’s anxiety feel less like drama and more like common sense.
OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:
Refusing to let my boyfriend's sister and BIL stay at our apartment
This also echoes the tense choice by a housemate over splitting cat surgery costs after asking a roommate to pay.
Let's head into the comments section and find out what other Redditors have to say about the story
Reddit
The OP shouldn't have a problem since it's just the weekend
Reddit
The OP cansuck it up for a single weekend
Reddit
We all make sacrifices for family and inlaws
Reddit
The OP can buy a double bed air mattress
Reddit
The OP can get a queen air mattress for the guest room
Reddit
It was fun because they wanted it to be fun
Reddit
The OP will survive it for a weekend
Reddit
OP also points out that her boyfriend basically gave a go-ahead without talking it through first, so now she’s stuck being the bad guy in her own apartment.
It's absurd for OP's BF to want her to give up their own bed for them. OP's boyfriend ought to have discussed it with her before giving his family a go-ahead.
On the other hand, OP is undoubtedly exaggerating the situation because she should have no problem with two adults spending two nights at her house. Leave your verdicts in the comment section and don't forget to share.
If they can afford a retirement plan and a mansion, they can afford a hotel room.
For another “take action or stay quiet” conflict, read what she did after roommates neglected a cat in their apartment: Roommates Neglected Cat Secretly Rehomed.
