Bride Wants To Exclude Bridesmaid For Insisting On Bringing Edibles To Wedding Despite Strict Rules

A 28-year-old bride tried to keep her wedding simple, dry, and strictly rule-following, and it immediately turned into a fight with the one person she needed to feel like her partner in the chaos, her bridesmaid. It wasn’t a vague “don’t do anything weird” situation either, the venue’s rules were posted online, and OP relayed them like, “Hey, this is what’s allowed, this is what’s not.”

But the bridesmaid kept pushing back, insisting on bringing edibles anyway, even though weed is illegal in their state and OP is planning a no-alcohol wedding. To make it worse, OP said this friend has already been a source of stress during the planning process, so this wasn’t one random slip, it was the latest headline in a long-running drama.

Now OP is stuck wondering if her bridesmaid will even want to show up when the “we’ll just do our own thing” plan gets shut down.

OP got frustrated with her bridesmaid. Anyone could check the venue's website and see the rules OP relayed to them.

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OP planned to speak to her friend another time before making a final decision.

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The moment OP told her bridesmaid about the venue’s posted rules, the whole vibe shifted from “wedding planning” to “who’s going to cave first.”

The situation surrounding the bride's dilemma about her bridesmaid's insistence on bringing edibles to the wedding underscores the critical nature of setting boundaries in relationships. The bride is preparing for her dream wedding, a day that should be filled with joy and celebration. However, the potential for conflict looms large when expectations are not clearly communicated.

Weddings are inherently emotional events, and the introduction of personal choices—like bringing edibles—can lead to misunderstandings and tension among friends and family. The bride's desire to maintain a specific atmosphere at her wedding illustrates how essential it is to establish and respect the rules that are set for such occasions.

Would the bridesmaid even want to participate when she learns OP plans to have a dry, no-alcohol wedding?

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Beyond that, weed is illegal in their state. Furthermore, this bridesmaid has been a source of stress during OP's wedding planning.

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Studies published in the Journal of Social Issues indicate that establishing boundaries is essential for maintaining healthy relationships.

A commenter said OP was the a**hole because no one could tell when someone took edibles, especially if that person was good at hiding it. OP quickly shut that down because her friend is not timid when she's high.

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OP also explained why she and her fiancé planned to have a dry wedding. Some commenters said it was a bad idea because guests could find the wedding boring.

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That’s when the edibles demand hit harder, especially since OP’s wedding is dry and weed is illegal where they live.

Also, this reminds us of the online shopping account fight, where a friend used it without permission.

Psychologists emphasize the role of social norms in shaping individual behavior, particularly in group settings.

OP does not belong to the Bridezilla Hall of Fame. She made a reasonable request. If her friend couldn't adhere to that, she shouldn't be at the wedding.

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OP's notes at the end of her posts paint a better picture of her "friend" than the entire post.

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Commenters started weighing in, but OP wasn’t backing down, because she knows her friend is not exactly the timid, “oops I’ll be discreet” type.

Why are the edibles more important than witnessing a good friend's special day? Did she forget that bridesmaids are there to support the bride and have duties to troubleshoot any last-minute issues to prevent the bride from stressing out?

Based on her post, she is not a good friend and would cause trouble at the wedding. How do you think OP's conversation with this bridesmaid would go?

Is it possible to reason with someone so determined to make everything about them?

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Never mind being a bridesmaid; this person isn't even a good friend to OP.

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Even the dry-wedding backlash got dragged in, and OP still had one question left, would her bridesmaid be able to follow the rules for one day?

Behavioral studies show that having open discussions about personal values and expectations can mitigate conflicts.

In navigating the intricate dynamics of weddings, the importance of respecting boundaries cannot be overstated. The bride's dilemma in considering the exclusion of a bridesmaid highlights the potential for conflict when personal choices clash with event rules. Her decision to enforce a no-edibles policy reflects a broader expectation of decorum that many couples uphold for their special day. It is evident that misunderstandings can arise when personal values do not align with the collective experience of the event.

Encouraging open dialogue about what is deemed acceptable not only preserves the sanctity of the occasion but also fosters respect among all parties involved. This situation serves as a reminder that mutual understanding is key in creating a harmonious environment, especially at significant life milestones like weddings.

If the bridesmaid can’t respect a dry, no-edibles wedding, she’s probably better off staying off the guest list.

For another family blowup, read why one mom was nearly excluded from a drama-free baby shower.