Son Unceremoniously Kicks His Estranged Mom Out When He Changed The Locks Of His Home While She Was On Vacation

It's difficult enough to experience losing a parent at such a young age. On top of his grief, this son, who was 15 years old at the time, had to adapt to his mom dating someone new just two months after his dad's death.

His parents were not married, and his late dad left everything to him while leaving nothing for OP's mom. She tried to manipulate OP into giving up some of his properties so her "new dad" could feel welcome in the family.

OP couldn't do that even if he wanted to because his dad's final will specifically states that OP can only access his inheritance once he turns 21. His mom's new boyfriend had two kids of his own when he entered the relationship, and OP's mom favored them over OP.

For example, when they went on vacations, she would hint that OP would do better if he stayed with his grandparents instead. She didn't say it outright, but OP knew that she didn't want him to come along.

When OP was 17 years old, she kicked him out of his own home because he kept fighting with his new dad. OP frequently reminded him whose house it was and called him John Conroy.

OP had to stay with his grandparents, who advised him to avoid confrontation. His mom visited him and told him how much she loved him but said she had no choice but to keep the peace at home.

OP is now 23 years old. He just finished college and checked which properties he can renovate to rent out.

The house his mom was staying in was a prime rental, and the income would help pay for OP's master's degree. He went to visit his mom's home, but nobody was there.

OP found out they were on vacation, and he tried to contact her to inform her about his plans. OP changed the locks while they were away in order to take possession of his property.

When they arrived and couldn't get into the house, they tried calling OP, who was out of town. When he went to the place to inspect before the renovation work started, his mom cornered him.

She began yelling at OP, asking how he could do that to her. OP informed her that they had two weeks to vacate the property.

OP's "new dad" was furious, while his mom and the "new dad's" pregnant daughter began crying. OP's maternal side of the family began shaming him for his actions, but OP's mind is made up.

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Is OP an a**hole for changing the locks in his own home and essentially making his mom homeless? You can read the rest of his story below:

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"I called him John Conroy."

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OP had no power when he was young. Now that he is an adult, he can do what he wants with his properties.

gjwtgf

OP should cut ties cleanly and put their possessions in a storage facility to prevent them from "accidentally" trashing his home.

Internetperson3000

They suspect OP's mom maintained a civil relationship with him so she could have access to his inheritance.

Important-Pair-3553

OP's dad made sure his son was protected by having an ironclad will.

CelticTigress

Was OP wrong for not informing them about his plans and changing the locks without their knowledge?

Capybara_99

OP technically had no obligation to them, and after what his mom did to him when he was a minor, she had this coming.

NotoriousJAM

Still, OP should ensure his actions are by the book.

StripedBadger

It looks like OP knows exactly what he is doing.

Yes_ISaidThat

His mom and her new family need to find a new place to live ASAP.

1nTh3Sh4dows

OP dutifully paid his property taxes to prevent his mom from claiming the house as hers.

Yes_ISaidThat

Tenancy laws will depend on which country OP is living in.

StripedBadger

OP does not live in Australia, but he seems to have a good understanding of the laws in his country.

Yes_ISaidThat

It looks like he has already talked to a judge.

Yes_ISaidThat

Other redditors noticed that OP needs moral guidance and is not looking for legal advice.

Al319

OP's mom was behaving awfully entitled for someone who kicked out their own biological offspring from their home when they were a minor.

Maximoose-777

OP talked to his lawyer, and it looks like he's doing everything above board.

Yes_ISaidThat

Whichever course of action OP chooses, he is the rightful legal owner of his home.

Yes_ISaidThat

Parents are supposed to be the first people to protect us. OP's dad did that for him despite his untimely passing, but OP's mom dropped the ball.

OP was grieving the death of his father, but he couldn't even rely on the one parent he had left to comfort him. She kicked him out of his own home instead, and years later, she reaped what she sowed.