First Time Dad Is Shocked When His Pregnant Wife Gets Mad At Him For Inviting His Family To Stay For A Week Immediately After Their Baby Is Born

Pregnancy and childbirth have always been depicted in movies as beautiful, miraculous events. In reality, as many women would tell you, it's a traumatic experience physically, emotionally, and mentally.

Perhaps this is why most people often forget how much pain women go through when they give birth. Unless you've given birth yourself, you'll never truly understand.

An expecting dad on Reddit was given a rude awakening when he posted about his recent problem. His wife is nearing her due date when OP (original poster) mentioned that he invited his family over once the baby is born.

He and his wife live in a different state than his family. They've missed spending Christmas with them this year because of this, and in case anyone is forgetting, his wife is just about ready to give birth.

His parents called him, demanding that he and his wife make up for the missed celebrations. OP said he's open to their suggestions, and his parents had the great idea of staying with them for a week when the baby is born.

OP thought this was a brilliant idea and officially invited them. He forgot to mention this plan to his wife until a few days later when she was talking about all of her plans with the baby after giving birth.

Upon learning about their plans, the wife got over her initial shock and freaked out. She told OP that he shouldn't have extended an invite without at least consulting her.

OP was confused by his wife's negative reaction since she loves spending time with his family. The pregnant woman, with the patience of a good mother, explained that it would be too much work to deal with his family while simultaneously taking care of a newborn.

The good husband gallantly told his heavily pregnant wife that this is not a big deal. Besides, he said, they could use the help if she looked at things from his perspective.

The wife got even angrier and told the clueless father-to-be that the first week of a newborn's life is crucial for their bonding and intimacy, and he just took that opportunity away from her.

OP argued that his pregnant wife is being MELODRAMATIC.

His defense is that his family are decent people and they could marginally make their post-birth experience a lot warmer. The wife countered that if OP's family are truly decent, then they wouldn't have accepted the invite in the first place.

As a person who wouldn't stand for false accusations, OP clarified that he did not invite his family. Technically, it was their idea, and he only agreed after they guilted him about missing Christmas.

The wife demanded that OP call his folks and rescind the invitation, but OP doesn't want to. He says she gave a "not-good-enough" reason to do so, and besides, he's really sure that his parents will be of great help.

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The pregnant lady has since stopped talking to OP, which he doesn't understand because his family are not the intrusive type; they just love spending time around one another.

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OP provided additional details after receiving a good amount of backlash from Reddit users

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Redditors rightfully castigated OP for his bone-headed behavior. It's in all caps for maximum intensity.

Whitestaunton Whitestaunton

OP conveniently overlooked that his wife's ordeal will not be done even after a painful birth

Whitestaunton Whitestaunton

What if it's not an easy delivery?

rycbar99

What's not clicking for OP?

GoodGirlsGrace

The hidden "horrors" of childbirth

Eelpan2

With all these painful things, how do women still give birth?

sarabeara12345678910

It's a basic rule of decency, is it not?

slippery_watermelon

According to OP, his wife gave a not-good-enough reason

painsomnia

The poor wife will have to take care of two babies, and the newborn might be more manageable than the dad

painsomnia

FYI, OP

livingfortheliquid

That's enough helping for the day. What's for dinner?

georgia-peach_pie

The parents are too entitled...

FionaTheElf

... and this is how you properly treat a pregnant lady

FionaTheElf

If this person learned the lesson 22 years ago and is still preaching about it, better listen

bellydancingmarlin

Another mom who just gave birth shared how horrific the experience is

melje_bee

You need to be there for your wife and baby, not entertaining adults who really don't have to be there

melje_bee

Yes, all of these demands in the middle of a pandemic

throwawayact75 throwawayact75

Hmmm, the parents could do the opposite of helping and actually hinder the experience for the new mother

throwawayact75

Cleaning up this mess will be good practice for OP when he has to change soiled diapers

throwawayact75

Here's a helpful numbered list of how many f*ck ups OP has committed

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The Redditors collaborated and even gave OP a roadmap on how he can apologize to his wife

TwoCentsPsychologi

Well done, OP. Your best work yet!

Fabulous-Housing102

The audacity! OP's wife is a saint.

ijustwanttoaskaq123

Great, let's chalk it up to hormones and not the very valid reason of OP being an a**.

Fabulous-Housing102

"You're so way past the line that the line is a dot to you!" - Joey Tribbiani

MrPotato2753

Cue OP's shocked Pikachu face

gotmyorangecrush1

I think OP missed that class

PattersonsOlady PattersonsOlady

OP lives in his own perfect little world where food magically gets cooked and his clothes suddenly appear clean

PattersonsOlady

This is a tad extreme, but if OP refuses to accept responsibility, they could be heading down this path

fidididii

I mean, possibly, and not at all out of the realm of reality

type1error

After being told not so delicately that he's the A**hole, OP has accepted his mistakes

Judgement_Bot_AITA

How clueless do you have to be to behave the way OP did? It's not a difficult concept to grasp that you shouldn't be adding stress to your very pregnant wife.

Hopefully, OP's mistake will serve as a lesson to everyone who has pregnant partners. Do not piss off the lady who's about to give birth to your child; be a little more considerate, yeah?