Redditor's Wife Politely Tells Him That He Is Talking Too Loudly In The Restaurant, So He Childishly Decides To Stay Completely Silent

"When she says I’m too loud, it drains all my energy to continue a conversation and just go quiet after that."

Filip

• Published in Interesting
• January 18, 2023

Disagreements are common in every possible relationship. Whether in a work, family, or friendship relationship, it's absolutely fine to have a different opinion from another person.

But disagreements between married couples are definitely in the first place by their frequency and freedom to express them. Those different opinions between partners don't mean they have no respect for each other but on the contrary.

By getting married, you make a commitment to be someone's other half and help them with whatever they need, even when they don't realize they need help. So, if you occasionally criticize your partner for something or admonish him for his behavior, it shouldn't be a big deal that could cause a conflict.

A grown-up person should realize it's in their best interest. Besides, that same person had chosen their partner themselves, so mutual trust is taken for granted.

But still, sometimes, people don't comprehend their inappropriate behavior and tend to get insulted very quickly, as in this particular case. A Reddit user, precisely a husband, shared his story online looking for unbiased advice about his behavior and minor disagreement with his wife.

He said his wife resented him talking too loudly when they were at the restaurant, so she told him to keep his voice down. He didn't accept it as he should have and decided to stay quiet for the rest of the evening until they got home.

Even though he didn't feel like his wife was right at the time, now he wonders if he was actually that loud and if his behavior was improper.

Here is OP's concern:

According to his wife, he talks too loud sometimes, so in that case, she warns him to keep his voice down:

But he doesn't believe that his voice is actually that loud and that the other people around them can hear what he's talking about:

So he decides to keep quiet whenever she says to him to keep his voice down until they get home:

"You’re probably louder than you think."

Another Redditor agreed:

One Redditor shared a similar experience and the cause of their problem:

Usually, people who talk too loud can't realize how loud they are

"I would rather be reminded about getting loud so I could learn to use my “inside voice”, " explained another Redditor

"You're an AH for being prideful and throwing a tantrum simply for being nudged about it"

Loud speaking can be physically painful to other people:

"You're getting angry at the wrong person here"

His wife is polite, he should be aware of that, also.

"YTA. Not for being loud, but how you’re reacting to your wife’s feedback."

Redditors told the OP that his voice is probably louder than he thinks. Generally, it's not a big deal, he should just lower his tone and not act childish toward his wife.

Probably Redditor had already supposed that his silence was improper, so he asked impartial people to help him decide. But since he was already in a dilemma, this advice could only help him to resolve it.

Filip