Teen Shares How Clashed With Her Roommates After Months Of Passive-Aggressive Behavior

Passive-aggressive roommates are bad enough when it stays in the group chat. But one teen says her suite became a full-blown paper trail after weeks of subtle jabs, messy “organization” plans, and a roommate who took everything straight to the RA. OP says she doesn’t even touch their stuff, because her desk and her business are hers, but she did hear her roommate trash-talking her. That’s what pushed OP to confront her, and apparently it was the wrong move, because the roommate claimed OP was being mean and escalated it.

By the time the common-area rules, meetings, and quiet note-taking started, it wasn’t about chores anymore, it was about surviving the semester.

The OP writes...

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The OP uses a laundry service

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They have been having problems

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OP's friend has control issues

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The whole thing kicked off because OP’s roommate wanted “organization” for the suite, then acted offended when OP refused to be pulled into their system.

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

I confronted my roommate when I heard her sh*t talking me, so she went to the RA because she believes I’m being mean to her.

And the comments from other Redditors roll in...

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Helping out in common areas

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She's being a slob

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The OP's being ridiculous

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After OP confronted her for sh*t talking, the roommate ran to the RA, turning a roommate disagreement into something documented instead of just awkward.

This also echoes the trainer wrestling with past drama while teaching a new hire.

Reddit commenters zeroed in on the details, calling out OP for judging them while others pointed out the roommate’s slob habits and the chore-chart power move.

The OP left this somewhere in the comments section

My desk does not affect them. They have their own desks (which look stupid, but I don’t voice it because I’m polite, unlike them). Unfortunately, they’ll have to learn to live either way other people. Other people don’t have to do what you want. I don’t expect anything from them. Why would I ever take out their trash for them? I’m not their servant just because I was assigned to live with them. I already told them to leave me off their little chart because I’m not doing any of it. And I mention ethnicity because I’m pointing out they are a racist mean girl clique, and they think they can tell me what to do because they have the ethnic majority. But they can’t.

And the comments continues...

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The OP is already judging them

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Creating a chore chart

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Cooperation with roommates

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Even the desk drama got dragged into it, because OP says the RA-notes phase began when the meetings kept happening and harmony never did.</p>

The situation didn’t end with a resolution, just a paper trail. What started as roommates trying to “organize” the suite has turned into meetings, explanations, and an RA quietly taking notes.

At this point, the OP has done her part by setting boundaries and documenting everything. Now it’s less about harmony and more about surviving the semester with her grade—and her sanity—intact.

Nobody wants to spend a semester proving they aren’t the problem on a paper trail.

If you think roommates are bad, check out what a chronically late coworker did at work.