Woman Vows Never To Buy Gifts Again After SIL Shrugs Her $80 Present, But Husband Says She’s Overreacting
She tried to be thoughtful, and the silence did the talking.
A 28-year-old woman vowed she’s never buying gifts again after her sister-in-law shrugged off an $80 present like it was nothing. And now, that one small moment has turned into a family argument that’s somehow bigger than the price tag.
Here’s the messy part: OP says the SIL didn’t bother putting the gift away, and instead of treating it like a simple “thanks,” she got hit with the cold truth that her future gifts were suddenly in jeopardy. Meanwhile, OP’s husband is calling it an overreaction, arguing you’re not entitled to gifts just because you think you deserve them, and Reddit is split on whether a quick thank you should be enough.
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“Taking offense that she didn't put away the gift and saying that she therefore doesn't deserve gifts in the future is an overreaction.”
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“NTA, aside from what you feel is her gratitude, or lack thereof, the fact is, you're not really required to get anybody gifts.”
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This echoes the AITA where someone demanded a raise in front of the whole office, sparking office tension.
“Stop being all but-hurt because she isn't fulfilling your expectations and not stroking your ego.”
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“NTA - although I agree with you, this isn't a situation where you'll win or even look good.”
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“Buying makeup or skincare/beauty stuff for someone else is really tricky. It's like buying someone a bra IMO.”
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“She thanked you for it and that is that. What do you want, a parade?”
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“I wouldn’t waste money on her again since she’s been ungrateful but also she’s never given a gift in return.”
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“Very slight yta... Not every gift is liked, that is life, that is why the day after Christmas return lines are huge.”
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The whole fight starts with that $80 gift, and the SIL’s refusal to put it away is what OP claims set her off.
OP’s husband jumps in, basically saying the “no more gifts” threat is over the top for a moment that happened right after the present was opened.
Commenters bring up the makeup and skincare angle, arguing those gifts can be a minefield because nobody wants the wrong brand or formula.
As the verdict gets debated, people point out the SIL did say thank you, but also that OP says she never returns the favor with gifts either.
The Reddit community has decided to side with OP's sister-in-law on this issue. Many people feel that a 'thank you' is sufficient to show gratitude.
Some people have even mentioned that leaving gifts around is a normal thing, and that gifts that are put away quickly are the ones that are not liked.
One particular Redditor chose to be neutral in giving a verdict but noted that buying skincare products for someone could be tricky, especially if it's not their go-to brand.
Which side of the divide are you on? Or do you have a completely different opinion on this entire situation? Tell us in the comments.
Now everyone’s stuck arguing about gratitude, but the real casualty is the Christmas-level peace.
After the SIL’s $80 shrug, things get even riskier in this AITA where a startup employee publicly criticized their boss in a team meeting.
