Man Gets Upset At Wife For Not Going To His Christmas Party Despite Her Reason
"I asked him why was it ruined, and he answered you know why"
A 28-year-old woman skipped her husband’s Christmas party, and somehow it turned into a full-blown argument instead of a quiet “feel better soon.” OP said she didn’t go because she was uncomfortable and not feeling well, the kind of sick that makes you question everything, including whether you can even sit through an event.
To make it worse, her husband didn’t just ask what happened, he got upset, and when OP tried to explain, he basically shut it down with a cold “you know why.” OP wanted to know why her day was ruined, and the husband’s answer felt like it was tied to whether she was being supportive, not whether she was actually in pain.
Now OP is stuck wondering if she’s the problem for choosing her body over his work Christmas party, and Reddit is split right down the middle.
The OP writes...
RedditThe OP could not be able to attend because she would feel super uncomfortable
RedditThe OP asked her husband why was his day was ruined, and he answered "you know why"
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OP wasn’t feeling well enough to go, but her husband apparently treated her last-minute cancellation like a personal betrayal.
OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:
- action was that I did not go to Xmas party 2) because I wasn't supportive?
We've gathered some of the most upvoted comments from other Redditors for you to read through below
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The OP was uncomfortable and not feeling well
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This Redditor would have sucked it up and went
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It's not fair the OP is being mistreated over it
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When OP asked why her husband was so mad, he hit her with that vague “you know why,” and it made everything feel worse.
This is similar to the AITA argument with a judgmental brother-in-law at Christmas dinner.
Some commenters said OP should have “sucked it up” and taken painkillers, while others pointed out her discomfort was the whole reason she stayed home.
The OP has a relatively valid cause for her last-minute cancellation. Her husband, on the other hand, is perfectly entitled to feel angry.
The OP didn't feel comfortable going because she was in pain. Some Redditors said her husband can go ahead and be angry with her but it's still OP's choice to take painkillers.
Other Redditors also have their opinion and you can read some of them below.
OP's husband owes her an apology
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OP's husband should have just gone to the party
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This Redditor does not like OP's husband
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He is being a complete AH to the OP
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By the time people weighed in with calls for an apology and “just go ahead” takes, the Christmas party drama had already snowballed into a relationship fight.</p>
As the OP's situation shows, even the best-laid plans can go awry due to circumstances beyond our control. Her husband's reaction has left her feeling guilty and uncertain.
Many Redditors agree that the OP’s husband should suck it up and stop making the OP feel like she should have prioritized his work event over her own well-being.
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He might be the one who should apologize, because OP’s pain was real, even if his party wasn’t.
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