Mother Wonders If It's Not Proper To Hangout At The Coffee Shop With Her Toddler
An old lady muttered some insults about them, making the mother concerned about whether she was doing something wrong.
It's a given that toddlers are noisy. They still don't have the maturity to determine when it's okay to be rowdy and when to stay quiet.
Maybe they feel the need to make noises to stimulate their brain's auditory centers. Psychologically, there are other explanations too.
The simple reason is that they want adults to notice them. After all, noise has the ability to grab attention.
According to experts, children are still establishing their sense of self. That's because they're not born with it.
Kids can only discover this through peer-to-peer relationships. It's only around ages 4 to 6 that they start paying attention to their actions and thoughts.
They begin to recognize how others view them. It's within that age period that children who tend to be loud acknowledge that being noisy isn't socially acceptable.
Excitement is another reason why toddlers are noisy. Think of it like a dog wagging its tail. The younger the child is, the less they know how to modulate their voice.
In other words, they may be noisy to our ears. But for the kids who make noises, they only know that they're excited.
A Redditor who's also a mom is wondering if she's wrong for taking her child to the coffee shop. She's a work-from-home mother who takes care of her little one while her husband is away.
She's also a young entrepreneur and a graduate school student. Since life can be busy, she just wants a bit of diversion while keeping things fun for her toddler at the same time.
The work-from-home mom wanted people's opinions about taking toddlers to a coffee shop.
AccomplishedPlenty27She needs to go outside from time to time because it can be tiring to stay at home with a child the entire time.
AccomplishedPlenty27She is aware that toddlers can be rowdy anywhere, so she makes it a point to lessen the inconvenience for other people.
AccomplishedPlenty27
When picking a spot, she stays away from working people. But there's this one lady who's obviously not happy about her and her child's presence.
AccomplishedPlenty27
She isn't the type to confront people. She asked Redditors for their opinions.
AccomplishedPlenty27
She and her toddler aren't the problem here.
Pgreen862, AccomplishedPlenty27
People who don't want to have kids don't necessarily hate socializing with kids.
dogmadandsad
Parents who allow children to be rowdy are the problem. But that isn't the case with the original poster.
sa5m_i_am
The lady's insult isn't because her child is noisy.
_ewan_, CMUpewpewpew
The old lady probably thinks she's a single mom.
cattripper, cassiebones
Redditors agree that the kid isn't disturbing anyone.
sparkingdeadly, notwizardharry
Even people who don't want kids are completely okay with the occasional interaction with children.
nana_banana2
There's definitely something wrong with the lady who called her a floozy.
polar_bear_14
People seem to forget that they were once kids.
ark092, sparkingdeadly
A coffee shop is a public place where mothers are free to bring their children.
No_Application_8698
Perhaps the original poster needs to start wearing her wedding ring.
a_peanut, mithdraug
If the old lady has a problem with the mom and her toddler, why does she even sit near them?
bulgarianlily
This old lady isn't worth worrying about.
UrCrazyMatchsMyCrazy
Redditors are applauding the original poster for being considerate of the coffee shop staff and other customers.
AccomplishedPlenty27, UrCrazyMatchsMyCrazy
Since she's very considerate, she should just continue visiting the coffee shop without worrying about the old lady.
TrustedTriangle
They're minding their own business, and they're not bothering anyone. It shouldn't be a problem to visit the coffee shop with her daughter.
Olive_The_Banshee
It's the old lady who clearly has issues.
First of all, she's judging the original poster without basis. Looking at the insults she muttered, it seems that the old lady doesn't even know that the mom with the toddler is married.
The original poster doesn't need to worry about this lady. She just needs to enjoy her time at the coffee shop with her daughter.
