A Mother-In-Law’s History Of Cruelty Comes Back To Haunt Her When Caregiving Is Needed
One woman has put her foot down on caring for her cruel mother-in-law. Now the family is divided and tense.
A 28-year-old woman refused to let her mother-in-law move in, and it was not a casual “we’re not ready” situation. Over the years, OP says MIL has been downright mean to her, so the idea of sharing a home, and especially being around OP’s kids, felt like inviting nonstop drama into their daily life.
When caregiving became the real problem, OP doubled down. Her husband agreed that MIL should not be dumped on them, but he felt her delivery was harsh, because, yes, family politics can get messy fast.
Now the update has everyone side-eyeing who really created this mess in the first place.
Let’s dig into the details
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OP suggested a nursing home, insisting that her husband’s brother’s should take responsibility
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OP’s husband agrees with her, but thinks her delivery was harsh
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OP has dropped an update on the matter
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We gathered some comments from the Reddit community
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“NTA Assisted living isn't cheap, but the brothers contributing (equally) should total a decent amount.”
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“How about the brothers look after their parents!”
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“NTA. They decided before hand that they would pressure you and your husband to take your in-laws into your home.”
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“They can quit their jobs and take care of THEIR parents if they are so worried about them.”
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“NTA. The mother in law is reaping what she sowed.”
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“If she was bad before, she's gonna get 10 times worse as time goes by.”
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“You being harsh is you simply standing your ground. Which you have a valid reason to.”
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“You're not the one putting them in a tight spot, their parents are for not planning well for their future.”
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“Your BIL's are both complete AH for dumping the care of THEIR parents on you. Not even on your husband.”
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OP’s refusal to let MIL move in set the tone, because the mean comments from years ago were still fresh when the caregiving talk started.
The moment OP suggested a nursing home, she also pointed straight at her husband’s brothers, making it clear she was not volunteering her time or her peace.
Even with her husband on her side, the argument over how OP said it added a whole new layer, like the “harsh delivery” became its own fight.
By the time Reddit commenters started calling out the brothers for not planning, the family compromise felt less like generosity and more like damage control.</p>
The Reddit community is fully behind OP on this matter. They have insisted that her husband’s brothers take charge of the situation themselves, rather than dumping MIL on her.
The fact that MIL has been mean to OP over the years makes it even harder for her to accept such a character in her personal space, especially around her children.
However, it was great to see that the family came to a compromise in the end. Regardless of what MIL has done, abandoning her in her old age can’t be an option.
What do you think about how this family handled everything? Tell us in the comments.
That mean history came back around, and suddenly everybody wanted the brothers to handle the fallout.
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