Wife Loses It After Coming Home From A Trip To Learn Her Husband Fed The Kids Takeout All Week
What she found when she returned made her question everything about their parenting partnership.
The OP of this story explained that she recently took time off work to travel for a very important family wedding. Due to how close she is to the bride-to-be, she decided to travel ahead of her husband and two kids to help with the wedding setup, and also to spend time with extended family members.
Before leaving, OP focused on making things as easy as possible at home. Meals were cooked, portioned, labeled, and stored. In addition, explained the feeding plans to her husband so he can cater to himself and the kids without running into problems.
Her husband assured her he understood the plan. For the first couple of days, she checked in to make sure things were fine. Between wedding activities and family gatherings, those check-ins faded, and she trusted that the system they agreed on was working.
When the rest of the family flew in for the wedding, her husband told her everything had gone well and that there was plenty of food left. That gave her peace of mind, at least until they all returned home.
Back in the kitchen, she noticed just how much food remained untouched. That was when she learned that despite leaving enough home-cooked meals in the fridge, her husband opted for takeouts because he was too lazy to heat up food.
She was deeply upset and said she might never trust him with the kids again. However, he was adamant that the kids were safe and happy with the takeout meals during her absence.
The conversation grew tense with each passing minute; they argued, even into the next day. Now, she's eager to get an outside opinion on who is wrong in this situation.
Let’s dig into the details
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Reddit.comBefore OP left for her niece’s wedding, she had prepared and stored what her kids and husband would eat. All he needed to do was thaw and heat
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OP also made it a habit to check in with him on the food situation at home
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When OP’s husband flew in for the wedding, he made her believe that everything was okay at home. But when they returned, she discovered that they had resorted to eating out since he was too lazy to heat up food
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OP relayed her disappointment in the way her husband took care of the kids, but he was adamant that they were safe and happy, which is what should matter
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Important edit
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OP has been dropping more information so that the community can understand their routine at home
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Final edit
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We gathered some interesting comments from the Reddit community
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“I guess I’m a different kind of wife, because I’m leaving next week to go out of town, I told my husband to figure it out.”
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“NTA. Weaponized incompetence….He’s an absolute embarrassment as a human and father.”
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“I don't prepare stuff when I go away I trust my husband is competent enough to keep the children alive in his own way.”
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“You’re doing too much. Let your husband feed the kids. 10 and 12 is plenty old enough to make their own lunches.”
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“Your husband doesn't have to do things the way you do them.”
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The Reddit community is split on this matter. While some agree that her husband fumbled by employing "weaponized incompetence," many are surprised that she resorted to making and storing their meals before travelling in the first place.
Some Redditors believe that her kids are old enough to handle some of these meals themselves, and she should have trusted him to cater to them his own way, rather than forcing him to fit into her own structure.
Hopefully, the couple can sit down, identify where they both went wrong, and find a middle ground for future situations like this.
What do you think about this story? Do you think OP's reaction is justified? And how would you have handled things if you were in her shoes?
