Woman Furious After Learning Ex Wants His New Daughter To Have A Name That Complements Her Child’s Name
One “perfect” name choice turned into a messy power struggle.
When OP named her daughter Elsa six years ago, it felt personal, not performative. She loved Frozen, she thought the name sounded beautiful, and her husband agreed. It wasn’t a random trend to her, it was a choice that felt tied to a moment in her life and a bond with her child.
Now that bond feels like it’s getting pulled into someone else’s story.
OP is 31 and divorced her ex-husband, 35, when their daughter was three. They still co-parent, but they don’t sit in the same emotional space anymore. He remarried less than six months ago, and his new wife, 25, is already pregnant. Recently, he told OP they’re having a girl.
That’s when the name issue landed.
OP says her ex told his new wife the backstory behind Elsa’s name. After hearing it, the new wife suggested naming their baby Anna so the girls could share matching sister names, just like in the movie. OP didn’t hear it as cute. She heard it as someone trying to copy her choice and turn her daughter’s name into a set.
It also triggered a fear she didn’t expect. OP still wanted the option to use Anna someday if she had another daughter, and now she feels like that choice is being taken away. She tried to push back, even called her divorce lawyer, but got told there’s nothing she can do.
Then, in a moment of anger, OP said something she regrets and now the co-parenting situation feels worse than ever.
Keep reading and scroll through the screenshots below to see how a baby name turned into a full-blown family conflict.
Let’s dig into the details
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Reddit.comOP was not happy after she found out that her ex-husband has plans to name his daughter “Anna,” which complements “Elsa,” (OP’s daughter), since both are sisters in the Frozen movie
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OP called her ex-husband and threatened to sabotage the relationship between the girls if he doesn’t choose another name
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OP regretted what she said after she dropped the phone. But she still thinks her ex-husband should change the name to something else
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We gathered some interesting comments from the Reddit community
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“YTA. The fact you called your lawyer over use of a name - a very common name at that, is a bit unhinged.”
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“They are sisters whether you like it or not and Anna is a very common name. I suggest you get over it.”
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“YTA It’s none of your business what they name their daughter, nor do you have any say in it.”
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“YTA. He’s not your husband anymore and don’t get input on his naming of his child.”
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“YTA. You threatened an ex and your own child over a baby’s name.”
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“For someone who talks about how much they love Disney, you must realize that if this was a Disney movie, you’d be the Villain.”
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This situation hits a nerve because names carry history, and OP sees this one as part of her daughter’s identity, not a theme to continue.
At the same time, OP can’t control what her ex and his new wife name their baby, and threats only make everything heavier for the kids involved.
The best path now is honest boundaries and a calm reset before the baby arrives. What would you do in OP’s position? Share your thoughts in the comments.
