Christmas Morning Turns Sour After Wife Buys Her Own Gift Following Years Of Disappointing Surprises From Husband
Years of lackluster gifts finally push a wife to take matters into her own hands.
Every Christmas, this couple repeats the same routine. She plans the gifts, wraps the gifts, and usually puts the most thought into making everyone else feel loved.
It’s something she has done for years without complaint, even when her own presents didn’t quite match the energy she put in.
Her husband has a long history of choosing gifts that land closer to stocking stuffers than actual presents, and every time it stings a little more than she expects.
This year felt almost predictable. He told her he’d gotten her something she would like. Nothing pricey, just something thoughtful. She didn’t dig around or go snooping, but he left it sitting in a gift bag without tissue paper.
She decided to take a peek, and inside was a single bag of peanut butter M&Ms. It wasn’t the first time he’d grabbed the easiest thing possible and called it a day.
Previous years came with candy, cheap polish, or a last-minute gift card. Meanwhile, she always saved up and surprised him with the things he actually wanted, from consoles to watches to accessories he still uses daily.
After years of the same pattern, she didn’t want to spend another Christmas morning pretending she wasn’t hurt. She offered him a list of ideas, and he insisted he didn’t need help.
So she went out, bought herself the makeup she’d been eyeing for months, wrapped it, and put it under the tree. When she told him, he blew up, accusing her of not believing in him. Some friends even said she should’ve waited and been grateful for whatever she got.
But she wasn’t trying to be dramatic. She just didn’t want to sit there feeling forgotten again.
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Reddit.comOP discovered that her husband got a disappointing Christmas gift for her, yet again, even after complaining that his gifts usually hurt her feelings each year
Reddit.comWhat makes his gifts even more disappointing is that she puts in effort to get him really nice things that he uses regularly
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Rather than wait for him to make the "big reveal" (which she had already seen), she went out and got herself a befitting gift. But this move didn’t go down well with her husband
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We gathered some interesting reactions from the Reddit community
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“NTA. I think your husband deserves a bag of peanut M&Ms.”
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“NTA if he was going to by thoughtful, he would already have been in previous years.”
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“NTA a bag of peanut MandM ms in a gift bag is a truly pathetic gift.”
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“There was almost no chance that he was going to get you a nice gift this year, and it's great that you are doing it for yourself.”
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“I'm glad you bought the makeup. Now, let's see if he takes the damn hint. NTA.”
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“You are NTA in my book but you are desperately in need of a divorce.”
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“NTA I wouldn't even give a family/sharing size bag of M&Ms to a co-worker I don't really know as a Christmas gift.”
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OP's husband thought his small gifts were enough, while she felt the lack of thought year after year.
Buying her own present might look blunt, but it came from wanting to avoid another painful holiday moment. Couples often reach a point where mismatched expectations catch up with them.
We do hope they can sit down and have an honest conversation about their expectations on gifting. Hopefully, other years will be much better and more fulfilling.
What do you think about how OP handled the situation?
