Absent Father Reappears After 20 Years And Immediately Asks His Son For $3,000
A second chance at family turns into a financial test.
When he was five years old, his parents split because of his father’s gambling addiction. Most of his early memories involve arguments about money, broken trust, and a man who was rarely around. Not long after the divorce, his father disappeared completely.
For twenty years, there was silence.
He grew up assuming his dad was either locked up, broke, or gone for good. His grandparents stepped in. They paid for his college. They made sacrifices. His mom rebuilt her life. And eventually, he did too. Now 26, he works as a software engineer, earns a steady income, and tries to quietly repay the people who supported him.
Then six months ago, his father resurfaced.
They started slowly. Awkward calls. Polite conversations. He met his father’s new wife and teenage sons. Surprisingly, he bonded quickly with his half-brothers over video games and baseball. For the first time in his life, he felt what it was like to be an older brother. It meant something.
Then came the request. His father asked him for $3,000.
He says it’s for rent. For bills. For school fees. He says he shouldn’t have to beg his own son. He reminds him that his half-brothers could suffer without help.
The money wouldn’t ruin him financially. But something feels wrong. His father is still an addict. His mother would be devastated. His grandfather would never forgive it.
Now he’s stuck between protecting his peace and potentially watching his half-brothers struggle.
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We gathered some interesting comments from the Reddit community
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“Seriously, there are a lot of red flags and chances are the money wouldn't go where he says it would.”
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“He left you on your own and you did alright. He doesn’t get to cash in now. NTA”
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“Net here is that you are not responsible for bailing him out of a situation he got himself into. Please don’t let him prey on you.”
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“It’s your money and you can make whatever choice you want but if your father is a known gambling addict chances are this isn’t gonna be the last time he’s in debt.”
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“He's using you. You'll regret it if you help him. Tell him no and then see how he reacts.”
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“Don’t give him money, the temptation to blow it gambling will be too much.”
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“If you want to do something for you brothers, take them out shopping or tutor them/coach them for college.”
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The father sees this as family helping family. The son sees decades of absence and a pattern that hasn’t really changed. The half-brothers sit in the middle of it all.
Money has a way of exposing old wounds that never fully healed.
What would you do in his position? Would you help, or would you protect yourself this time? Share your thoughts below.
