Man Faces Dragging Online As He Shares Why He Doesn't Celebrate Valentine And Other "Fake Holidays"

A 28-year-old man is getting dragged online after posting why he skips Valentine’s Day and other “fake holidays,” even when the people he loves might actually want the moment. The post sounds simple at first, but the comment section turns it into a full-on debate about expectations, effort, and whether “I show love year-round” counts when a specific day is on the calendar.

In the thread, OP explains that sometimes his partners expect something on Valentine’s Day, and when he doesn’t play along, they feel disappointed. Then the discussion gets messier when OP brings up Mother’s Day too, claiming he doesn’t want to buy into tradition and would rather show his mom love on other days.

That’s when everyone starts asking the same question, and OP doesn’t like the answer.

The OP writes...

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The OP feels like sometimes his partners expect something on valentines day and feel disappointed

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Let's head into the comments section and find out what other Redditors have to say about the story

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Women do like to feel appreciated

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Some girls might just agree with the OP's opinion

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The OP is not the AH as long as he does this...

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OP’s Valentine’s Day stance might sound calm in his head, but the comments zero in on how his partners feel when they’re expecting even a small gesture.

It echoes the landlord ultimatum to rehome Mittens versus the partner’s health concerns.

The Mother’s Day example in the thread adds fuel, because one commenter basically says, sure, you can love your mom anytime, but the day still matters to her.

The OP talked about mother's day in one of the comments

I understand your point about Mother’s Day but I also show my mother love on other days to make up for not getting her anything on Mother’s Day. We go to dinner and all the jazz but I don’t want to get her something because tradition says I should. I shower my mother love and appreciate everyday I can. Mother’s Day just doesn’t jam with me. I do hope I find someone with similar ideals tho.

From someone who's partner doesn't care about birthdays

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Getting no gifts on Christmas is another angle

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This Redditor is trying to point out things about mother's day

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They have excuses for why they should only celebrate their loved ones

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When OP tries to justify skipping gifts with “I do it other days,” Redditors start treating it like a loophole instead of a lifestyle.

By the time the discussion lands back on Valentine’s Day, the consensus is clear, he’s not judged for having principles, he’s judged for letting someone else pay the emotional price.

The issue, in most Redditors' opinion, is that the people OP loves may be hurt by his principles. While some generally agreed with OP's stance, it doesn't change the fact that he would be an AH if he refused to do what he was supposed to, even when it affected someone else.

Which mom won't be devastated if her son chooses to skip Mother's Day because he thinks he has shown her enough love throughout the year? Well, the OP was declared the AH, and that's a wrap.

He might think it’s about fake holidays, but the family dinner energy says it’s really about hurting real people.

Before you judge, read about refusing to declaw a cat after a partner demands it.