He Paid Almost $300 For A Family Holiday, Then Got Uninvited By His Girlfriend’s Parents - One Redditor’s Travel Disaster

A Redditor recently found himself in the middle of a relationship rough patch that had stretched on for nearly 18 months, though the last two had been especially tense. Things hit a breaking point when his girlfriend nearly left him right before a family holiday they’d all paid for in advance.

The OP explained that the upcoming trip involved her entire family, with each person contributing £222 (almost $300US) toward shared accommodation. While his girlfriend eventually said she felt comfortable with him joining after some heartfelt talks, her family stepped in and decided they didn’t want him there after witnessing how upset she’d been for months.

The OP understood their reasoning but felt blindsided, especially since her parents had never mentioned they’d object even if their daughter approved. He now wondered if he was out of line for asking to be refunded his share, given that he’d taken time off work and had no real say in whether he attended.

To complicate things further, he had also paid £60 for a show they were all supposed to attend the Friday before the trip, and no one had updated him on that either. With the trip only a week away, he worried he’d be stuck paying for a holiday everyone else would enjoy without him.

The Redditor stressed that he had no intention of fueling more conflict, especially since his girlfriend felt terrible and hadn’t expected her parents to intervene. He added that their long-running tension stemmed largely from anxiety about her potential move to London for a two-year course and the uncertainty it created for their future.

Both were still living with their parents while saving for a deposit, making everything feel even more high-stakes. The OP admitted he hadn’t handled every part of the situation perfectly, but felt this decision being taken out of his hands was unfair.

The OP and his girlfriend had been going through a rough patch.

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Here's the original post by Reddit user 'Struggle_Nervous'.

My girlfriend and I had been arguing on-off for 18 months, with the last 2 months being especially tense resulting in her very nearly leaving me this weekend. This was made even more of a tense situation as we have booked to go away with her whole family next week that we have all chipped in towards (£222) and she couldn't decide whether she felt comfortable with me coming or not.She's finally said she's happy for me to come still as we've had some really productive and hopeful conversations but now her family have said that their not comfortable with me coming anymore after seeing her upset so long as they think it will be awkward and make the holiday tense. I do understand this, this isn't the issue, but the whole time my partner couldn't decide whether she was happy for me to come or not it wasn't once mentioned by her parents that even if she was happy they still wouldn't be. Am I the asshole for asking for my £222 back?I've had to take holiday off work, that's now going to be awkward for my manager to cancel and find me jobs last minute as were meant to be going next week, and I've had no choice in whether I'm coming or not. ? Don't want to still be paying whilst everyone else goes and keeps there cheaper split accommodation cost! I have no idea how to handle this and really need some help, the last thing I want to do is drive another wedge between my girlfriend and I or make her feel like she's stuck in the middle. She is really sad about this too and didn't see it coming at all. For context there were 6 of us going in total, so £222 each.EDIT: Forgot to add were also meant all be seeing a show I've put £60 on Friday, which I haven't heard anything about yet! Also cost is accommodation only no flights :) A lot of people have been asking for context to me writing "18 months" of arguing, I don't see that we've been arguing for 18 months at all that's what she says, but that we've had tension for 10ish months mostly over her looking at doing 2 year courses and renting in London (5 1/2hours away), which she hasn't seemed entirely sure on so has caused anxiety and stress back and forth due to my worries (Some of which is stuff that I need to work on and she accepts has made worse by being distant as a defence mechanism - its too much to explain in one edit haha but at the crux she's had a really hard last 10 years in life with mental health and feels like my own anxieties around long distance etc etc are causing here to be restricted and not be free to explore all options now she's feeling better slowly. I've never said she cant do anything ever, just had worries about certain things like money and long term goals. No kids, both having to live with parents as saving both trying to save for deposit (I know i know ignore how much of a bad idea this sounds at the current moment).EDIT: Thought I should mention, which makes things a bit more complicated I just realised. Before my partner and I had all the really good conversations and she had said that we will try and make wales work and it might could be alright me coming, I had said to just forget about it and the money that I wouldn't come because I could see how much pressure it was putting on here to make her mind up about the relationship me saying I wouldn't be happy to not come and that id like my money back if she did make that decision. I was going to settle for not asking for the money but now its her parents making that decision for me not to come it really doesn't feel fair to me.EDIT: Parents changed mind, went, very uncomfortable holiday caused more bad than it did good. She broke up with me this week - rip. Thanks for all the support guys.

Here's how the Reddit community reacted.

CatDaddy1135

NTA.

Disastrous-Ideal7629

"Get the money back."

Zloiche1

Tell them you'll cancel your holiday plans as soon as you receive your money back.

Meriadoxm

"Shouldn't be an issue."

Tricky-Fig4772

"It is a doomed relationship."

Absoma

"They will need to give you your money back."

Jocelyn-1973

It's over.

ButItSaysOnline

"They need to repay you."

Short4Richard2177

"That is a lot of fighting so early on."

Disastrous_Cupcak3

They should've paid you back straight away.

sanglar1

It's a no-brainer.

NoteEasy9957

"Seeya!"

Sunnyok85

You paid for your share.

Remarkable_Dust3450

After all the chaos, the Redditor later updated that her parents changed their minds and he ended up going on the trip anyway. Unfortunately, the holiday was deeply uncomfortable, and the relationship ended shortly afterward.