Lady Yells At Her Fiancé For Deleting Her Project Just Because She Didn’t Attend A Birthday Party With Him

One woman thought she was doing the responsible thing by staying focused on a major work project, but her fiancé saw it as a personal slight.

Reddit user Anna34757, a web developer, said she was racing to finish a backend project that could mean a promotion and a raise. When her fiancé pushed her to go to his best friend’s birthday party, she explained that work had to come first, at least for that night. He did not take it well, and what happened next turned a simple disagreement into a much bigger mess.

Here’s how one missed party led to a deleted project and a furious confrontation.

She shared a troubling story on the AITA subreddit community about how her petty fiancé took drastic measures to retaliate for a minor issue

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Working toward your goals is difficult when your partner does not support or understand your plight. It’s especially challenging when they’re also manipulative.

Such individuals are insecure and can stifle one’s development. Here’s the story in full:

A birthday party

Anna34757

I couldn't go for it

Anna34757

It was an unacceptable act

Anna34757

I hope it's worth it

Anna34757

Project done!

Anna34757

He chose to delete her project over a trivial issue

laflor (not the actual photo)

That’s when the argument stopped being about a party.

Everything got wiped

Anna34757

My heart sank...

Anna34757

I started yelling

Anna34757

The exchange of words began

Anna34757

He checked into a hotel

Anna34757

A classless and totally unacceptable act

Anna34757

The OP later mentioned in the comments section that her fiancé came from a family that was very concerned with their ego and image, and it appears that seeing the OP’s progress in her career could be threatening to him. Some men are that way, and it is so shallow-minded.

Redditors, on the other hand, all agreed that the OP was correct in insisting on finishing the project ahead of any outing. Scroll down to see some of their comments.

And if you think birthday-party punishment is bad, see the AITA post where a partner’s wedding ultimatum put OP in the middle.

Got the spelling wrong

feedus-fetus_fajitas

One commenter thought the deleted work crossed a serious line.

You have to take that seriously

yet_another_sock

He destroyed your valuable work and time

InannasPocketk

The OP is adding more info

Anna34757 (OP)

He sounds dangerous

nibbler981

Right?

Ok-saymyname-5462

Their standards are over the top

JBagginsKK

This is totally abusive behavior

pizzainoven

Good time to change the locks

YMMV-But

It never ends there

ArnicaxRoss

He is insecure, controlling, and abusive

Proper_Grand9585

Don't stay silent if your partner is petty and constantly letting you down, or if he or she is generally making life difficult for you over the smallest reasons. You should have an honest discussion about it before it causes you irreparable harm.

Finally, everyone wants someone who listens to and understands their problems, boosts their morale, and is readily available in times of difficulty and doubt. No more, no less!

May this kind of petty revenge stay far away from your relationship.

Before you pick sides, read how a girlfriend’s refusal to follow WFH office rules turned into a fight.