Quarrel Brews As Redditor Misses A Day Of Helping Partner Fill Gas Before Work

It's okay to help your partner out in certain things, but would you inconvenience yourself, even on bad days, just to help them out? Meet u/AITAcars, the original poster of today's story, who has chosen to keep it gender neutral to prevent gender bias.

"Because that makes a big difference in whether you’re the AH or not. And I don’t agree with that," OP wrote somewhere in the comments section.

In this situation, the OP thinks that gender doesn’t matter, so they left it ambiguous to not cloud judgment. Now, OP's partner works Sunday evenings, but they tend to sleep until 15-30 minutes before they need to be at work.

They have asked the OP to fill up their car with gas before they go to work on Sundays because they don’t have time to get ready for work, get gas, and get to work on time. Well, the OP accepted since they also use that time to grab a thing or two for themselves.

It snowed one night through the next day, and the OP had no plans to go out. This is because they don’t like driving in the snow unless they truly have to.

The partner asked the OP to help fill the car with gas, but the OP declined while stating reasons. Read the full story below to find out how OP's partner responded.

The OP writes...

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The OP had no plans to go out because they don’t like driving in the snow

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They left for work upset and didn’t even say goodbye

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OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

I did not fill my partners car with gas before they left for work even though I tend to say yes when they ask or do it without asking and because of that, they couldn’t fully get ready and got to work a few minutes late.

We've gathered some of the most upvoted comments from other Redditors for you to read through below

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OP says the partner has to start with a full tank

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They need to act like an adult and be responsible enough

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They are just choosing to use the time to sleep

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The OP had more details to give...

I work 9-5 but more hours due to overtime lately. Some hours are WFH. But regardless, I am on site every day and live much further away than they do.They work maybe 25-40 hours depending on the season and need of the company. Their job is lime 2-3 minutes away but their drive their car through the whole shift. So they need gas way more often than I do. They work evenings into early mornings.

And the comments continues...

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It is incredibly lazy to ask your partner to fill up your car

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OP's partner can get fuel another day

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It is a caring gesture not a chore

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OP revealed that they love doing things for their partner to make them feel loved. In fact, they have said time and time again that they do them to show love and because they have the energy.

The OP doesn’t want these acts to become expected, and Redditors understood that. You too can drop your own verdict in the comment section, and don't forget to share as well.