Friend announces pregnancy, I skip out: AITA?

A 28-year-old woman refused to match her close friend’s energy after a pregnancy announcement, and now she’s stuck in the middle of a friendship fight she didn’t ask for.

OP and Sarah, a college friend she’s known for years, finally connected after work kept OP away for a few days. Sarah was bursting with “big news,” but OP had just come out of a brutal breakup and was still raw, lonely, and emotionally running on empty. She congratulated Sarah, but she couldn’t fake the same spark, and Sarah took that as rejection.

Now OP is wondering if she messed up by not being as excited as Sarah wanted, and Sarah is convinced OP owes her more joy.

Original Post

I (28F) have a close friend, let's call her Sarah (27F), who I've known since college. Sarah recently reached out to me saying she had some big news to share.

Due to work commitments, I couldn't meet her for a few days. When we finally caught up, she excitedly announced her pregnancy.

I could tell she was thrilled and wanted my support. However, I had just gone through a tough breakup and was struggling emotionally.

The news of her pregnancy made me feel even lonelier, reminding me of what I had lost. I congratulated her, but I couldn't bring myself to show the same level of enthusiasm she expected.

Sarah seemed hurt by my reaction and later messaged me expressing her disappointment. She mentioned how she had always been there for me and expected me to share in her joy.

I tried to explain my situation, but she felt I was being selfish and couldn't understand why her news didn't make me happy. I feel terrible for not being able to be there for her like she wanted.

So AITA?

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It’s also like the AITA where a friend got excluded from planning her pregnancy celebration, and then had to decide whether to show up anyway.

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When OP finally meets up with Sarah after those work delays, Sarah’s pregnancy announcement hits right on top of OP’s breakup hangover.

OP tries to offer congratulations, but the “support” lands flat because she’s still feeling lonelier than she wants to admit.

Sarah texts later saying OP has always been there for her, so why couldn’t OP show up for this moment?

OP explains her emotional state, but Sarah calls her selfish anyway, like OP’s feelings should have taken a back seat.

What are your thoughts on this situation? Share your perspective in the comments below.

OP might not be the villain, but Sarah definitely isn’t buying it.

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