How One Redditor’s Plans To Split Her Weekend Graduation Celebrations Sparked A Family Feud

A weekend graduation plan turned into a full-on family feud, and it all started with one simple goal: seeing everyone without missing either milestone.

OP, a 23-year-old woman, had her entire family flying in, including her grandma she rarely gets to see. At the same time, her boyfriend is graduating the day after hers, so OP planned to attend his graduation in the morning, then keep a late-night dinner with his family from eating up her time with her own people. Her dad called her rude anyway, insisting she should drop the boyfriend dinner plan and spend every moment with her family while they’re in town.

It’s the kind of “who gets you for what hour” argument that makes even a celebration feel like a battlefield.

The OP’s entire family, including a grandmother she rarely sees, was traveling in for her big day.

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My family, including my grandma who I don’t get to see often, is coming for my (23f) graduation.

However my bf (23m) is graduating a day after me so I will be attending his graduation in the morning. My dad (66M) says I am the asshole for planning on going to dinner with bf and his whole family one of the nights my family is in town. The dinner is late at night so I promised I would eat lunch and spend the whole afternoon with family. I will also be spending the rest of my family’s time in my city with them too. Am I being unreasonable? I have been with my bf for over 6 years (dad hates him though) and we have a serious relationship. I will see family for two and a half full days at least but my dad says I am being rude.

Here’s how the Reddit community reacted.

EwwDavvidd

“You’ll never make him happy, so why bother?”

Low-Television-7508

“Your plans are reasonable.”

RaisintoBe

“Don’t allow him that power.”

nemc222

“Case closed.”

Smitts69

NTA.

julesk

This echoes the fight where a 14-year-old refused to share her tipex and lost a friend.

“Seems like a reasonable plan.”

HeadCrone

Your dad is unpleasant.

myboytys

“You’re the levelheaded one.”

LoosePhilosopher1107

“You’re supporting your BF.”

RuthBourbon

Give the rest of the family a heads up.

Duckeee47

Dad is being petty.

Hope_Wally

“Good luck!”

Wonderful_Minute31

OP’s dad immediately zeroed in on that late-night dinner with her boyfriend’s family, like it was stealing time from her grandma’s first reunion in ages.

When OP explained she’d eat lunch and spend the whole afternoon with her family, the argument didn’t soften, it just got more petty.

The real tension was that OP has been with her boyfriend for over six years, and her dad still clearly can’t stand him showing up in the picture.

By the time OP promised she’d still spend at least two and a half full days with her own family, the thread was basically screaming, “Dad is being unreasonable for no reason.”

In the end, the OP just wanted to celebrate both graduations without causing unnecessary drama. And honestly, isn’t that what milestone weekends are supposed to be about?

The graduation weekend wasn’t the problem, her dad’s need to control the schedule was.

Wait, solo diners also clash over tipping, see why this Redditor refuses to tip over 10%.