Woman Asks If She Is In The Wrong For Wanting Her Grandmother To Attend Her International Wedding, But Doesn’t Want Any Responsibility Regarding Her Trip And Care

Destination weddings can be so wonderful, and they are the most beautiful thing you’ve ever seen.

But behind every one of those great photos, there is a ton of work – planning, organizing, logistics, dreading, and dealing with unexpected events and delays. Murphy’s law says that if something can go wrong, it will.

Destination weddings provide so many opportunities for something to go wrong, simply because so many parts have to fit in perfectly. One of those parts is attendance.

By choosing a distant destination, you reduce the number of guests who can make it, which is what most people understand. But some people don’t.

They would like to have their dream wedding at some wonderful and exotic location and still have all the people they care about around. And that is not very likely to happen.

So most often, people have to choose… A Reddit user shared an interesting problem.

She wants to have a destination wedding but also wants her 81-year-old grandmother to attend. And she expects other family members to take care of her during the trip and her stay abroad.

Of course, other family members were not thrilled about her plans and openly confronted her. So now OP asks if she is wrong?

OP asked:

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And then explained the situation:

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She and her boyfriend have big plans for their international wedding and want her grandma to attend.

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But some relatives weren't thrilled with the idea of taking care of the elderly lady.

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So now the family is split. OP asks if she is wrong for wanting it all...

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Some Redditors mentioned the fact that OP doesn't know if her grandma even wants to go on such a long trip.

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This is a good point. Is grandma a person or a fixture?

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This sounds about right.

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It is okay to want a dream wedding, but it's not okay to believe it is everyone's dream.

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The Vocal Aunt has spoken! She is probably the usual caregiver.

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And grandma is 81.

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Traveling long distances at that age may not be fun.

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And dream weddings come in different forms...

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Some people made an effort...

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And had their dream wedding.

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Some people even bring weddings to their loved ones...

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The fact about destination weddings is that some people can't attend.

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There are simply too many variables...

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And OP needs to take on some responsibility.

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You can't expect people to take care of your grandma.

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But maybe if you pay them?

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OP posted an update, and it seems they've worked it out:

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It is evident that OP cares a lot about having a wedding abroad and her grandmother’s presence. But given the grandma’s age, it is hard to combine both. So, some creative thinking is needed.

With some help from the Reddit community, OP and her family have found a viable solution. She will have her dream wedding and pay for a nurse to care for her grandmother.

It’s a win-win situation. We hope everything will work out and everyone will be happy.