Moment Man Becomes Extremely Furious At A TikToker Who Just Didn't Want To Be Asked Out At A Gym
Some of us are tired to the point that we no longer have the energy to be nice about this.
A 28-year-old woman tried to keep her gym day normal, then a random guy decided “not interested” was negotiable. The clip shows her politely shutting him down, and instead of taking the hint, he keeps pressing, asking personal questions, and acting like her boundaries are a personal insult.
What makes it complicated is that she isn’t just rejecting him in the moment, she’s explaining why she used soft, friendly language like “It was lovely to meet you,” even though it wasn’t. She’s worried about what happens when women say no, because she has watched the same pattern play out online and in real life: the rejection gets treated like a challenge.
Now the gym turns into a whole mess, and the most chilling part is how quickly his attitude escalates when she tries to end the conversation.
Some of us are tired to the point that we no longer have the energy to be nice about this.
Photo by Andrea Piacquadio on PexelsLater in the overlay text, she questions why she greeted him with "It was lovely to meet you" when it wasn't, and the answer is that she was afraid. Like most women, she has seen, read, or heard story after story about women who were assaulted for saying “no” or for not being polite and ego-stroking enough in their rejections.
Racing out of the gym
@lauracoenfitShe’s already trying to leave, but he won’t let it go, so the “pleasant to meet you” line becomes her last attempt at a clean exit.
And of course, if we are unfortunate enough to have that guy follow us home, assault us, stalk us for years, or do any of the other horrifying things that happen to women in alarmingly high numbers, we will be held responsible by those who claim that we weren't being careful enough. No means to triumph.
He also ignores her obvious desire to end the conversation by saying "It was pleasant to meet you," as the woman notes, and he keeps asking personal questions.
@lauracoenfit
Then the video overlay flips the script, pointing out that she looks scared, not rude, because she knows how these situations can go sideways.
If we're scared, it means we're mean, cold, and assume the worst about all males, defaming them in the process. When the worst occurs, it will be our responsibility if we are not prepared.
Really, we could have sworn that we only recently discussed all of this. We're worn out, you all.
This also echoes the AITA where someone confronts their best friend for asking out their crush.
One tweep had this to say after watching the video.
Nothing in the film implies that the woman wants this man fired, detained, or even just identified, and she did not make any rape-related accusations against him. Simply put, the commenter above is being extraordinarily dramatic, as males often do when provoked even slightly.
That brings us full circle to the reason why so many women tremble when they have to decline a random gentleman. Even in the face of other men being refused, the tweep's reaction demonstrates how extreme and enraged men can become.
And this kind of response when we try to explain, even when we’re “not woke,” is not helping:
Even the follow-up chatter is wild, with a tweep going full dramatic, claiming she should be punished or the guy should be identified, even though she never makes a rape-related accusation.
In a quoted tweet, one woman wrote:
“The responses and vitriol towards this woman being exceptionally polite in turning down a guy who followed her to her car (!!) and asked her where she lives are chilling.”More comments below...
Walking a tightrope
Louder please...
And that’s where the quoted tweet comes in, calling out the vitriol directed at her for being “exceptionally polite” while turning down a man who followed her after the gym interaction.
The aforementioned video contains warning signs that many women will notice. In order to isolate her and minimize the possibility of witnesses, the man first waits until she is in her vehicle after leaving the gym.
He then asks if she resides "locally," which is an invitation to divulge details about the location of his target's home. Why it's risky for women to divulge that information to a strange guy who has just approached them shouldn't need to be explained.
He’s not “asking out,” he’s testing how far a no can be pushed.
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