Redditors React As Woman Refuses To Give Her Bed Up For Partner's Parents

A 28-year-old woman refused to give up her bed for her fiancé’s parents, and Reddit immediately smelled a fight brewing. Because this was not a “kindly switch for one night” situation, it was a full-on master bedroom power struggle disguised as hospitality.

Here’s the messy part: the fiancé promised his parents they’d sleep in their new bed during the visit, but OP doesn’t want to uproot her life and her stuff just to make his parents more comfortable. His parents are also dealing with real health stuff, and the queen bed situation is complicated by the fact that they do not normally share beds, plus OP’s bed is still in the house for other guests.

And just when you think it should be simple, OP reveals they’re getting the master bedroom again during the wedding next year, so the whole “who sleeps where” debate keeps coming back around.

The OP wants to know if she'll be an AH for not giving up her bed for guests

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OP's old bed is now not in use but it's still in the house for additional guests

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The OP does not love people being in her stuff regardless of snooping

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The moment OP said she’d be going against the promise her fiancé made to his parents, the comment section went from “maybe” to “absolutely not.”

OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

The action that would make me the AH is going back on a promise fiancé made to parents to sleep in our new bed for their visit.I want them to sleep in the guest room, which would go against the plan fiancé already made with them.

And the comments roll in...

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Not staying in the room

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Getting a hotel room

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Putting his parents above the OP

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While OP points out the guest room is “adequate” and his mom’s health issues are part of the equation, Redditors still can’t get past the bed-swap demand.

It also echoes the question of whether you should stiff UberEats delivery drivers when the fees are already brutal, like this UberEats tip debate.

The OP added these edits later on...

-His parents have separate bedrooms at home and they typically don't sleep in the same bed, but the largest bed they have is a queen. Fiancé thinks giving them the king is easier for them to share a bed with each other, since it's not their norm.-His mom has had health issues (brain surgery in the last year) and so we all want to make her as comfortable as possible. I just think the guest room is adequate.-They WILL be sleeping in our bedroom when they visit for our wedding next year. That is established and agreed upon. We'll be in a hotel and his parents and sister will be in our house. So regardless, they will sleep in the bed at some point. Just in that case, we won't also be in the house.

And the comments continues..,

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No spare bed

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They'll be fine

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Giving up your bed

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By the time people start arguing whether the fiancé feels cultural pressure to defer, the bed issue has basically become a relationship issue with his parents at the center.</p>

Some Redditors say that OP's fiancé might be feeling compelled to offer up the master bedroom because of his culture's deference. Others say that if his parents truly appreciate the OP, they shouldn't accept such an arrangement.

In all, it might be best if the OP discusses this directly with her future MIL if she gets along well with her fiancé's parents. Tell us your thoughts about this story in the comments section below, and share as well.

The bed wasn’t the real problem, the promise was.

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