Redditors React As Woman Refuses To Give Her Bed Up For Partner's Parents

In keeping with the spirit of the season, it's that time of year when old friends and family come out of the woodwork wanting to stop by for a night or two. Don't get me wrong, it's understandable that you would enjoy entertainment, but it's safe to frequently question if you should give up your bedroom for your visitors.

Naturally, you want your visitor to be comfortable, but should your own restful sleep be sacrificed for that? What would you do if you didn't have a guest bedroom at all?

Well, that wasn't so for the OP in today's story. The OP actually moved in together with her fiancé, and she brought her queen bed.

They put it in a spare room for guests. Since then, they have had a couple of friends, including OP's sister, visit, and each time they've stayed in the guest room.

The fiancé's parents are staying one night for the holiday, and he had planned to have them move over and sleep in the guest room, and give his parents their room. The OP wasn't happy about that.

The one difference is that whenever they've visited in the past, it was at the fiancé's old place with no guest room/bed. So he offered them his room and slept on the couch, but the scenario is different now.

The OP wants to know if she'll be an AH for not giving up her bed for guests

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OP's old bed is now not in use but it's still in the house for additional guests

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The OP does not love people being in her stuff regardless of snooping

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OP has offered the following explanation for why they think they might be the AH:

The action that would make me the AH is going back on a promise fiancé made to parents to sleep in our new bed for their visit.I want them to sleep in the guest room, which would go against the plan fiancé already made with them.

And the comments roll in...

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Not staying in the room

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Getting a hotel room

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Putting his parents above the OP

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The OP added these edits later on...

-His parents have separate bedrooms at home and they typically don't sleep in the same bed, but the largest bed they have in a queen. Fiancé thinks giving them the king is easier for them to share a bed with each other, since it's not their norm.-His mom has had health issues (brain surgery in the last year) and so we all want to make her as comfortable as possible. I just think the guest room is adequate.-They WILL be sleeping in our bedroom when they visit for our wedding next year. That is established and agreed upon. We'll be in a hotel and his parents and sister will be in our house. So regardless, they will sleep in the bed at some point. Just in that case, we won't also be in the house.

And the comments continues..,

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No spare bed

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They'll be fine

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Giving up your bed

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Some Redditors say that OP's fiancé might be feeling compelled to offer up the master bedroom because of his culture's deference. Others say that if his parents truly appreciate the OP, they shouldn't accept such an arrangement.

In all, it might be best if the OP discusses this directly with her future MIL if she gets along well with her fiancé's parents. Tell us your thoughts about this story in the comments section below, and share as well.