Wife Laughs in Disbelief When Husband Asks to Void Their Pre-Nup After Learning She Makes Way More Money Than Him

A prenup was supposed to keep this marriage simple, but it ended up setting the stage for a very awkward money reveal. Six years after signing the agreement, one wife is now making far more than her husband, and he suddenly wants the whole thing undone.

When they first got together, she was still in graduate school and he earned more as a software engineer, so the arrangement made sense at the time. Now she is a CRNA making $175 an hour, and the couple still keeps their finances separate, except for a shared expense account for utilities. That balance held until she mentioned buying a new car, and her husband’s reaction raised a few eyebrows.

Then the car conversation turned into something much bigger, and Reddit had plenty to say about it. Read on.

OP said she has no monthly payments because she paid for the car in cash.

The husband was shocked by OP's answer and asked, "With what money?" OP replied that she made more than enough to pay for her car in full.

OP's husband didn't say anything else after that, and OP thought that was the end of the discussion. A few hours later, the husband came back with an offer.

He suggested that they should void the pre-nuptial agreement. OP laughed at her husband for suggesting this and asked why they should forgo the contract.

He responded that since they are married, they should share their finances. OP replied that they've been married for six years without pooling their money, and they've been doing okay.

She noted that his sudden change in tone was very suspicious. The husband got upset and called OP a bunch of names before storming off.

He didn't come home, but he did tell his family about the fight. They've been calling OP non-stop, reminding her that he supported her (he was lying, dear reader) while she was in school.

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You can read OP's entire post below:

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OP clarified some points in the story after people in the comments section asked about the real deal

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People said there's no way OP couldn't have known how much her husband makes

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People in the comments section were quick to point out that the way OP's husband reacted is a red flag

windyafternoon

Most couples do have an idea about what the other makes since they share the burden of supporting the household. Of course, OP and her husband have a different arrangement, and that's also okay.

verminiusrex

You would think that after six years of marriage, there would be some assurance that your partner is not a gold-digger, but not in this situation.

leftytrash161

That car purchase is where the tension really starts to show.

What do OP and her husband talk about? How do you plan major life decisions with this kind of arrangement? I guess that's why buying a car blew up in their faces.

Uma__

He was okay with the arrangement until he realized he could benefit more without it.

Here_for_tea_

Is this an isolated incident, or does OP's husband involve his family in all of their marital issues?

Mybeautifulballoon

It’s like the OP who wondered whether to ask her sister’s fiancé for a prenup.

Husband was like, "Nothing to see here, folks!"

Icy_Mistake__

OP deserves the same protection from her husband that he demanded from her six years ago.

cassity282

Agreed, OP should be direct when communicating with her husband.

Redderder15

Could there be a deeper, more sexist reason for the husband's reaction?

nameless_other

A taste of his own medicine, and he doesn't like it at all.

theDagman

It never dawned on him that with his wife's graduate degree, she would eventually make more money than he does.

Hermiona1

Maybe add a few of your own clauses, OP.

BentBent12

The husband was living in his own world, thinking his wife would take advantage of him, but it turns out he's the one who's suspicious.

FrootLoop47

He doesn't view her as an equal; that's why.

muheegahan

Me thinks his ego was very bruised.

Janetaz18

Trust your gut in situations like this one.

patjames904

The comments only got more pointed from there.

patjames904

People really couldn't fathom how, after six years of seemingly happy marriage, the couple has no clue how much money they're making.

EqualDragonfly4159

This seems like a very plausible explanation.

Awkward-Wasabi-9262

A similar situation ended a marriage.

knkyred

OP's husband is showing his true colors.

midian42

The husband will behave differently after this revelation.

Acceptable_Banana_13

Ready your Venmo, OP.

Acceptable_Banana_13

The pre-nup will last as long as the marriage — sound advice.

puppyfarts99

Congratulations on your new car, OP!

Choco-chewy

Because of her husband's behavior, OP initially thought that she was indeed the a**hole...

Judgement_Bot_AITA

Money can stay quiet for years, then suddenly expose everything.

If they cannot get past this, that new Audi may end up being the least dramatic thing about the marriage.

Want another prenup fight, read about the partner who asked for a prenup and sparked a trust-and-money showdown.