Wife Laughs in Disbelief When Husband Asks to Void Their Pre-Nup After Learning She Makes Way More Money Than Him

Pre-nuptial agreements are more common than you might think. They are not just reserved for the uber-wealthy either.

These types of agreements are usually arranged before couples get married and are expected to share all of their assets. "Prenups" are set up to protect both parties from pursuing each other's wealth in case of a divorce or separation.

One Reddit user shared a similar experience with her husband. The husband made the OP (original poster) sign a prenup stating that their finances would be separate except for an expense account they would use for utilities.

OP noted that when they met, she was still in graduate school, and as a software engineer, he made more money than she did back then. OP understood why her husband wanted to protect himself, so she signed the contract.

Six years into the marriage, OP is now a CRNA (Certified Registered Nurse Anesthetist) making $175/hour. The agreement is still in effect, but neither knows exactly how much the other makes, and they have no issues with that.

One day, OP told her husband that she was thinking of buying a new car. The husband seemed disinterested and told OP to get whatever she wanted.

OP decided to buy an Audi because it was what she had always wanted. Her husband didn't know what car OP bought because he was away on a work trip.

When he got back, OP showed him the car, and he was genuinely happy for her. Later, he asked her how much she would have to shell out for monthly payments since the model is relatively new.

OP said she has no monthly payments because she paid for the car in cash.

The husband was shocked by OP's answer and asked, "With what money?" OP replied that she made more than enough to pay for her car in full.

OP's husband didn't say anything else after that, and OP thought that was the end of the discussion. A few hours later, the husband came back with an offer.

He suggested that they should void the pre-nuptial agreement. OP laughed at her husband for suggesting this and asked why they should forgo the contract.

He responded that since they are married, they should share their finances. OP replied that they've been married for six years without pooling their money, and they've been doing okay.

She noted that his sudden change in tone was very suspicious. The husband got upset and called OP a bunch of names before storming off.

He didn't come home, but he did tell his family about the fight. They've been calling OP non-stop, reminding her that he supported her (he was lying, dear reader) while she was in school.

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You can read OP's entire post below:

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OP clarified some points in the story after people in the comments section asked about the real deal

Takingcrazypills000

People said there's no way OP couldn't have known how much her husband makes

Takingcrazypills000

People in the comments section were quick to point out that the way OP's husband reacted is a red flag

windyafternoon

Most couples do have an idea about what the other makes since they share the burden of supporting the household. Of course, OP and her husband have a different arrangement, and that's also okay.

verminiusrex

You would think that after six years of marriage, there would be some assurance that your partner is not a gold-digger, but not in this situation.

leftytrash161

What do OP and her husband talk about? How do you plan major life decisions with this kind of arrangement? I guess that's why buying a car blew up in their faces.

Uma__

He was okay with the arrangement until he realized he could benefit more without it.

Here_for_tea_

Is this an isolated incident, or does OP's husband involve his family in all of their marital issues?

Mybeautifulballoon

Husband was like, "Nothing to see here, folks!"

Icy_Mistake__

OP deserves the same protection from her husband that he demanded from her six years ago.

cassity282

Agreed, OP should be direct when communicating with her husband.

Redderder15

Could there be a deeper, more sexist reason for the husband's reaction?

nameless_other

A taste of his own medicine, and he doesn't like it at all.

theDagman

It never dawned on him that with his wife's graduate degree, she would eventually make more money than he does.

Hermiona1

Maybe add a few of your own clauses, OP.

BentBent12

The husband was living in his own world, thinking his wife would take advantage of him, but it turns out he's the one who's suspicious.

FrootLoop47

He doesn't view her as an equal; that's why.

muheegahan

Me thinks his ego was very bruised.

Janetaz18

Trust your gut in situations like this one.

patjames904 patjames904

People really couldn't fathom how, after six years of seemingly happy marriage, the couple has no clue how much money they're making.

EqualDragonfly4159

This seems like a very plausible explanation.

Awkward-Wasabi-9262

A similar situation ended a marriage.

knkyred

OP's husband is showing his true colors.

midian42

The husband will behave differently after this revelation.

Acceptable_Banana_13

Ready your Venmo, OP.

Acceptable_Banana_13

The pre-nup will last as long as the marriage — sound advice.

puppyfarts99

Congratulations on your new car, OP!

Choco-chewy

Because of her husband's behavior, OP initially thought that she was indeed the a**hole...

Judgement_Bot_AITA

... but after reading all of the comments and feedback given to her, OP has a lot of serious life evaluation to do.

Takingcrazypills000

Money isn't everything in life or in marriage, but it can rear its ugly head every now and then, especially in OP's case where there is no clear communication about it.

It's so ironic that the husband thought OP would financially take advantage of him, but in the end, he's the one with a suspicious motive. If they can't move past this issue, OP will be packing her bags in that new car of hers.