Redditor Snaps At Sister's Boyfriend After Making An Inappropriate Joke About His Wife's Body
Most people would want to make a good first impression on their SO's family, but this guy said, "To hell with that."
One awkward joke at a family dinner can change the whole mood in seconds. In this Reddit story, a sister introduces her boyfriend to the family, and things quickly go sideways after he makes a crude comment about OP's wife and a medical procedure she went through the year before.
What should have been a simple introduction turns into a tense confrontation, with hurt feelings, a defensive boyfriend, and a sister who only makes things worse. OP steps in to defend his wife, but the fallout does not stop there.
Now the family is split, and OP is left wondering whether he handled it the right way. Read on.
This is the start of OP's story
ShutupHank766Here is the setting of how OP's sister introduced her boyfriend
ShutupHank766His joke was supposed to lighten the mood, but it touched on a very sensitive topic since the story was shared with him during a serious conversation
OP was rubbed the wrong way when, instead of apologizing, he played it off as a joke.
ShutupHank766
That joke landed badly, and the room never really recovered.
OP tried another tactic to make him realize how wrong his actions were. It made him uncomfortable, and he exited without letting anyone know.
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The sister got mad and took it out on OP. She continued to insult his wife, and it escalated. Their parents had to intervene before they left.
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Things only got messier after that.
OP's dad called to explain why he might be in the wrong in this situation, but he couldn't agree to do what they suggested.
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OP's sister is a bit cynical when it comes to people, and OP couldn't understand what she sees in her boyfriend other than the bad traits she considers.
ShutupHank766
OP just wanted to understand how the boyfriend could think that what he said was a joke.
GreekAmericanDom
The 'but' that follows is a one-way ticket to a**holeville.
DodgyRogue
People who have experienced being around someone who went through the same struggle as OP's wife would have reacted badly to the joke.
minamon012
This is coming from a Redditor who has been around more than enough women who are devastated by their diagnoses.
CoffeeBeanx3
They divulged how hard it is to stay calm when you know the turmoil of emotions present when someone is faced with a disease.
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End of comment
CoffeeBeanx3
More commenters piled on the sister, too.
This is also like the AITA case where a sister got upset after being served a non-vegan dish.
The Redditors agree that the sister is an a**hole too.
kkillbite
There are better ways to react when the topic of something as sensitive as this comes up.
MonteBurns
In this Redditor's opinion, OP should go no contact with the sister.
chefkimberly
His immaturity shone through when he wouldn't even try to understand why he was wrong.
Ok-Title-2511
There are times when you'll make mistakes and say something stupid, but if there is still time to apologize, one should do so.
BUTTeredWhiteBread
He probably doesn't listen to those who shut down his offensive jokes.
shhh_its_me
A big red flag right there.
xxSunflowergrlxx
If OP were to be mad because of the boyfriend's 'joke,' it would have been valid.
Otherwise_Window
OP later jumped into the comments to explain his side.
OP replied to one of the Redditors.
ShutupHank766
OP was able to stand up and defend his wife without being aggressive.
Ok-Title-2511
He knew he did something wrong; his reactions showed it.
DiTrastevere
OP handled the situation better than many people would, and it's unfortunate that his family couldn't see that.
elleprime
OP's sister's boyfriend is the perfect example of ideas being executed poorly. It might not have been his intention to offend anyone, but it wasn't what sparked the confrontation; rather, it was his reaction to the aftermath.
He could have simply acknowledged the wrongness of his actions and apologized. Instead, he left to escape the confrontation, leaving the family to sort it out on their own.
Did you think OP was right for not reaching out to the sister's boyfriend afterward? Share your thoughts with us in the comments.
That family dinner turned into a disaster fast.
Want another family blowup, read how one sister insulted a husband’s carpentry job at dinner, and the OP walked out.
