Redditor Snaps At Sister's Boyfriend After Making An Inappropriate Joke About His Wife's Body

When you find out that you'll be introduced to your SO's family, it can be nerve-wracking. You'll probably rack your brain for ways to make a good first impression.

Jokes can be one of your options. Who knows, you might end up sharing the same sense of humor, and if that's the case, you'll break the tension faster.

This saves you from the grueling amount of time spent sitting with them while you squirm in awkwardness. If you're going for jokes, though, make sure they're light-hearted.

Jokes are often taken as half-meant statements, and if you clearly didn't think yours through before telling them, it might do more damage than good. It's okay to mull it over in your head instead of letting it come out and unintentionally offend someone.

That would surely burn a bridge with your SO's family members, especially if you don't apologize afterward. Just like what this Redditor's sister's boyfriend did.

OP's sister wanted to introduce her boyfriend during a family dinner. OP was with his wife, who had undergone a medical procedure the previous year.

OP's wife shared her story with the sister's boyfriend during a conversation and made an inappropriate joke about it. The wife didn't retaliate, but it was clear that she was hurt. The tension escalated after OP confronted the boyfriend, who didn't seem to show any remorse for his statement.

This is the start of OP's story

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Here is the setting of how OP's sister introduced her boyfriend

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His joke was supposed to lighten the mood, but it touched on a very sensitive topic since the story was shared with him during a serious conversation

OP was rubbed the wrong way when, instead of apologizing, he played it off as a joke.

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OP tried another tactic to make him realize how wrong his actions were. It made him uncomfortable, and he exited without letting anyone know.

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The sister got mad and took it out on OP. She continued to insult his wife, and it escalated. Their parents had to intervene before they left.

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OP's dad called to explain why he might be in the wrong in this situation, but he couldn't agree to do what they suggested.

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OP's sister is a bit cynical when it comes to people, and OP couldn't understand what she sees in her boyfriend other than the bad traits she considers.

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OP just wanted to understand how the boyfriend could think that what he said was a joke.

GreekAmericanDom

The 'but' that follows is a one-way ticket to a**holeville.

DodgyRogue

People who have experienced being around someone who went through the same struggle as OP's wife would have reacted badly to the joke.

minamon012

This is coming from a Redditor who has been around more than enough women who are devastated by their diagnoses.

CoffeeBeanx3

They divulged how hard it is to stay calm when you know the turmoil of emotions present when someone is faced with a disease.

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The Redditors agree that the sister is an a**hole too.

kkillbite

There are better ways to react when the topic of something as sensitive as this comes up.

MonteBurns

In this Redditor's opinion, OP should go no contact with the sister.

chefkimberly

His immaturity shone through when he wouldn't even try to understand why he was wrong.

Ok-Title-2511

There are times when you'll make mistakes and say something stupid, but if there is still time to apologize, one should do so.

BUTTeredWhiteBread

He probably doesn't listen to those who shut down his offensive jokes.

shhh_its_me

A big red flag right there.

xxSunflowergrlxx

If OP were to be mad because of the boyfriend's 'joke,' it would have been valid.

Otherwise_Window

OP replied to one of the Redditors.

ShutupHank766

OP was able to stand up and defend his wife without being aggressive.

Ok-Title-2511

He knew he did something wrong; his reactions showed it.

DiTrastevere

OP handled the situation better than many people would, and it's unfortunate that his family couldn't see that.

elleprime

OP's sister's boyfriend is the perfect example of ideas being executed poorly. It might not have been his intention to offend anyone, but it wasn't what sparked the confrontation; rather, it was his reaction to the aftermath.

He could have simply acknowledged the wrongness of his actions and apologized. Instead, he left to escape the confrontation, leaving the family to sort it out on their own.

Did you think OP was right for not reaching out to the sister's boyfriend afterward? Share your thoughts with us in the comments.