Woman Tells Her Ex-Husband And Kids To Get A Job Instead Of Asking Her For Money All The Time
They started asking for more money from OP, and she's tired of it.
A 28-year-old woman refused to keep funding her ex-husband and kids like it was some kind of automatic payment plan. After her divorce, she thought the money requests would fade, but they just kept escalating, and the emotional whiplash got real fast.
Here’s the messy setup: OP and her ex divorced three years ago, and the kids chose to stay with their dad. During that first year, they were constantly asking OP for money, and it didn’t stop when their father stopped working. OP even went quiet for two years, got a new job, and finally had some breathing room, until her ex showed up at her door asking for more.
When he wasn’t satisfied with the deal she offered, Reddit had a field day.
OP and her husband got divorced three years ago
u/i_love_allfoodThe two kids they had decided that they wanted to stay with their father
u/i_love_allfoodThe kids were always asking OP to give them money during the first year of their divorce
u/i_love_allfood
That first year after the divorce, OP’s kids kept coming back asking for money, even as their dad’s situation changed.
Financial Dependency and Family Dynamics
Financial dependency often complicates familial relationships, especially in post-divorce scenarios.
They started asking for more money because their father wasn't working anymore
u/i_love_allfood
OP didn't talk to her kids for two years, and she got a new job in that time
u/i_love_allfood
OP's ex-husband showed up at her door one day, asking for money
u/i_love_allfood
Once OP stopped talking to them for two years and got back on her feet with a new job, the requests should have cooled off.
This is also like the AITA where a friend who earns more demanded an unequal rent split.
Moreover, the psychological concept of boundary setting is essential in managing these relationships.
OP agreed to pay for 2/3 of the money he asked for, but he wasn't happy with that
u/i_love_allfood
They're asking for a lot
u/dinocookie80
Unbelievable
u/Gangreless
Then her ex-husband popped up at her door, asking for money again, even though he had not been working.
The Emotional Toll of Constant Requests
Constant financial requests can lead to emotional exhaustion, which is often overlooked.
Double standards here?
u/United_Ring5897
OP agreed to cover two-thirds of what he asked for, but the ex still acted like it wasn’t enough.
The people of Reddit were eager to share their opinions on this. Some sided with OP, emphasizing that her children should learn self-sufficiency and responsibility. Others felt that a middle ground could be reached, with OP providing support but also encouraging her children to contribute.
It's a complicated situation, and we'd love to hear your opinion on this.
Additionally, the concept of emotional labor comes into play in these dynamics.
In the wake of OP's divorce, the struggle with financial dependency in her family dynamics is palpable.
Nobody wants to be treated like a paycheck, especially not after you finally started working again.
For another divorce fight over money, read why this mom insisted on a strict financial split.
